The idea of arranged marriage is really confusing and complicated. When you decided to go for arranged marriage, the whole process is time consuming and daunting. In all arranged marriage set-up, the first meeting with your future partner is very crucial and important. Both the girl and the boy should behave sensibly and maturely while meeting the first time. It is not about that the girls behave more sensitively, even the boys too behave in the same manner. In such odd situation, you need to be little cautious and ask right kind of questions. It is not just the responsibility of the boy to ask the intelligent and sensible questions, rather the girls should also keep this in mind. She should not ask sensitive questions to him. Here are some questions you should not ask to a guy when you are meeting him for the first time.
Do you plan to live separately after marriage: This is the one question which you should not ask to any guy when you are meeting him for the first time. It gives a negative impression and could be a big turn off. It might also give him indication that you don’t want to stay with his parents after marriage or will never adjust with them. So to avoid the tag of home breaker, avoid this question and if you really want to ask, mold your question in something more rational and logical way.
How much you earn?: This is another very sensitive question, however, money is important, but asking this question might offend him. Rather, you can ask some indirect questions like, “What are your future plans?” It will further help you in understanding his role and future stability in a better way. His salary is something that your parents could also enquire about. Even you might also get to know this later if you will get hooked with him.
Any past relationship or girlfriend: Just like you, your prospective partner may also have a past. But, many will like to be questioned much about it, forget sharing the details. Don’t go overboard by asking too personal and intimate questions from him about his past-life.
Are you virgin?: Hey, this is a million dollar questions and might be very important to you. But, asking this question to him in the first meeting might turn disastrous. This is not the right moment to ask such questions. Always, remember that he is not your college friend/office colleague to whom you can ask any question. He is just a stranger to you and this is really sensitive question to ask when you are meeting someone for the very first time. Similar to the girls, boys too find this question direct attack on their character. So, before asking such question, think twice and it could also lead to rejection.
Can we meet one or two more times without telling our parents: No matter, how broad-minded guys claim to be, they will never appreciate this question from a girl. Especially in an arranged marriage scenario, you tend to judge the person based on their initial behavior. There are chances that he might consider you as too fast and easy-going girl. In arranged marriage scenario, always stick to conservative ideas.
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