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7 tips to create a perfect balance between work and Love life

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Managing a career isn’t easy and throwing a relationship into the mix makes it worse! Extensive research on the subject of balancing careers and relationships shows that those in successful relationships are healthier, make more money, live longer and also get more promotions than single people do. So how can you create the perfect balance between your career and relationship? We’ll tell you just how:

1. Get your priorities straight:

Prioritizing doesn’t mean sacrificing. Make sure that your partner and your coworkers know that they are both important parts of your life. Communicate to both the parties that they are both high priority and sometimes one might take precedence over the other.

2. Don’t glorify ‘being busy’

It’s easy to assume that having a full calendar equates to being successful. However, it is time to stop filling your calendar with less important ‘busy work’ and start adding your significant other into it more often. Start treating date night as your priority and be non-negotiable when it comes to it.

3. Talk about work

Even though it is recommended to keep both worlds separate, your work is a part of your identity and you have to give your partner a chance to know all about you. Talk about your work responsibilities to your partner and listen to their struggles, accomplishments and encourage them to reach for the stars when it comes to their career. The chat options available on Punjabi matrimony, Gujarati matrimony and Marathi matrimony sites let you discuss your work and other interests with potential partners.

4. Never go to bed angry

This saying is meaningful to the success of both your career and relationship. Waking up angry has not only caused you loss of valuable sleeps, but also given a negative start to the day which in turn affects your productivity and mood. Work out your issues before going to bed for a better career and relationship.

5. Love the person and their title.

For a healthy balance between your work and relationship, make sure that you respect your partner for whatever position he/ she is employed in. Your partner’s job may not be to your liking, but you owe your partner unlimited support even when it comes to his career choices. Signing up on websites like matrimonial India lets you meet potential partners who have similar career goals or choices.

6. Share household tasks

Household chores are not just a woman’s job. Assign roles and decide who does what and stick to it. But make sure to do a little extra when your partner is having a bad week and he or she will love you more for it!

7. Balance Your Sacrifices

No relationship on this planet will work without sacrifices. Understand that your partner has made sacrifices for you and you should return the favor as well. This can mean anything from spending fewer hours in the office or delegating extra projects to others, just to spend a few extra hours with your loving partner.

So remember all the points listed above and give your relationship and career new heights. You will love the difference you’ll feel in both your love and work life.

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10 Things to Look For While Choosing Your Life Partner

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Choosing the right partner is an art form.  We are living in a time where broken relationships and divorce rates are at its highest so picking the right person may seem quite daunting. Look for these 10 things while finding your perfect match:

1. Let go of the tiny details.

Look for a person who has qualities that will help build a solid foundation of a good relationship: honesty, kindness, empathy and reliability.  Qualities such as sense of humor, good dancer, etc. are nice to have but in reality they aren’t necessary for you to be in a happy relationship.

2. You can be yourself around her/him: It may sound clichéd but having a partner who you can be your complete clumsy, crazy self with, without any judgment is a wonderful feeling.  Your relationship is your safe place where you can be 100% comfortable in, without having to put any kind of mask on.

3. Be clear about what is accepted and what isn’t: Do not put up with any situation that does not align with your personal values as you are blocking yourself from meeting the right person. Be clear about what your deal breakers are and don’t wait for something to change that obviously won’t.

4. You want to live similar lives: You may not think much about similar lifestyles, but it is a crucial aspect to keep in your mind. You should be on the same page when it comes to details like how many kids you’d want, if you’d want to stay put or keep travelling etc. Plenty of free matrimonial sites let you put in your preferences to filter out potential matches.

5. Drama doesn’t equate to love: If your relationships seem like an emotional roller coaster, that isn’t love! The average good relationship isn’t entertaining enough like they show in movies.

6. Are you settling or compromising?

There is a huge difference between the two, as the former leaves you feeling cheated by life. Do not let yourself settle for any less than you deserve by signing up to marriage websites that won’t let you be disappointed.

7. Give the most unlikely pick a chance as well

Meet someone and give them a chance, even if they aren’t your ‘type’. The attraction grows the more you get to know someone and that’s the case, especially in an Indian marriage. Arranged marriages work in India because you give people a chance and fall in love with them in the process.

8. Get rid of your checklist

Your extensive list with traits of the ideal partner has to go! Don’t let your checklist make you miss out on finding a great match. Focus more on how the other person makes you feel instead of making sure his qualities fit your list.

9. Don’t let fear decide for you

Don’t choose a partner just because you’re scared about ending up alone. Don’t let your fear choose an Indian bride for marriage who you aren’t sure of completely. It’s better to wait than make a hasty decision.

10. Have fun!

The most underrated tip is to pick someone who you can have fun with. Life is a difficult road with quite a few speed bumps. It’s best to choose someone who will hold your hand through it all and laugh with you.

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6 Gifting ideas for your Husband this Christmas & New Year

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Who doesn’t like to be pampered with gifts and surprises? Though widely perceived as something that excites women, even men are taken aback by such surprises and lovely gestures. They might not show their excitement, still the fact remains that they also wish their partner to make them feel important and show love and affection. And gifts are one of the best mediums to do so. Though one need not wait for any specific occasion to surprise his/ her partner, but missing on the occasions should be avoided.  As we head towards an exciting New Year, just preceded by Christmas, why not make the best of the occasion by gifting something unique to your husband. Here are a few gifting ideas you can surprise your husband with, and keep the spark alive in your married life.

Customized coffee mug: For a coffee/ tea lover a coffee mug makes the best bet, that too when it has a personalized message from the one you love. Yes, you got it right! You can get your coffee mug customized from any of the gift shops with his pic or your couple pic along with a customized message. Every time he will use it, he will fall in for you.

Smart Watch: Smartwatch can be a good option if your husband loves to wear watch. This will not just be an accessory but also a motivator to keep a check on his health. You can look for multiple options available across various brands. Choose the one you feel suits your husband’s personality. A watch organizer along is another add on to help organize all his watches at one place.

Perfume: A light scented perfume that he can wear all day long can be another gifting option. This will keep him reminding of you even when he is away from you. You may also opt for a perfume that you like him to wear that can be used when you two are together.

Wallet: A nice leather wallet can be decent and useful gifting option. You can also choose to surprise further with a movie ticket kept inside or anything else you feel can excite him, for example a spa coupon, concert tickets etc.

Favorite book: Is he the one who loves to read and can’t spend a single day without books? A new addition to his book shelf would surely entice him. Gift him a book that’s probably in his checklist that he wants to buy or would love to read. Getting the same as a gift from his beloved would surely bring in a smile on his face.

Weekend Trip: You can plan a surprise weekend trip for just two of you. Look out for the weekend getaways options and get the best deals through any of the online travel sites. Pack in advance without revealing your plan and surprise him at the last moment when everything else is ready. Surely, he will be surprised and happy to see you putting in all the efforts.

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5 Tips – How to create a perfect relationship with your partner?

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As we all know learning how to build a loving relationship is an art with a sprinkle of science in it. But nowadays with the hustle and bustle of life, we often take our relationship for granted and forget that it is really important to take efforts to make any relationship work. Times have changed and the way we see relationships have changed as well, below we have cracked the code of love by using these 5 tips:

1. Love doesn’t just happen to you.

Just like chasing your dreams, the first step to finding love is going out of your comfort zone and reaching out to someone. If dating sites aren’t your thing and matrimony is something you seek, you can register on some of the trusted matrimonial sites. You can sign up on Lovevivah.com, which is India’s 1st matrimonial site that offers Aadhaar linked profiles. If you are looking for Tamil matrimony, kannada  matrimony, Telugu matrimony etc, then visiting this website can be a best bet for you.  You will never know, you might come across your soul mate who will share a lifetime relationship with you.

2. Creating a safe space without fear.

Learn to stop interrupting and also to fight fairly while you’re at it. Don’t make threats and there is absolutely no space for name calling. Apologize when you know you should and walk away, breathe and calm down if you can’t. It is crucial to create a safe space for yourself and your partner where you can trust each other. Just remember that trust is the foundation of all relationships. And any relationship can only survive when it is filled with love, trust and compassion.

3. Reflect on the interactions

Understanding how your partner reacts when he or she is upset, if he or she makes an effort to talk about the issues or push it away, is key to a better relationship. Make sure to have a heart to heart with your partner about what you can do that will make them feel better. If you will keep ignoring the matters that are creating problems in your relationship, then you will only make things worse for both of you. It is always best to talk and sort out things then and there to avoid problems in the future.

 4. Relish the quirks and differences.

You don’t need a relationship where your partner shares all of your views and interests as honestly that can get a little boring! Your differences in music taste in food preferences is exactly what will keep the fire burning in the relationship.  Yes, this is another crucial factor that you both need to understand to make your relationship lasting forever.

5. Honor your connection with small rituals.

It can be something as small as a special kiss before you leave in the morning to starting the day together over a mug of coffee after you wake up. This time you spend with your partner is sacred, there should be no distractions in the form of social media notifications or work related issues. Use your time well to grow the love and bond you share with your partner.

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Kerala Weddings – Simple & Elegant

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Last week got a chance to attend my best friend’s wedding in Kerala. She belongs to a Malayali family, settled in Gurgaon for more than last 20 years but since the boy and his family were settled in Kerala, the venue for marriage was decided in Kerala. Her parents were too strict about finding a Malayali groom for her and hence they opted for the services from the best of the Kerala matrimony sites.

It was an amazing experience, attending a Malayali wedding, which was completely opposite to the magnificent Punjabi weddings we usually witness in north India. There were a handful of customs and traditions – Simple yet graceful! The entire marriage ceremony could be divided in three parts – Pre-wedding, wedding & post-wedding ceremony.

Pre-wedding Rituals

Exchanging and matching of horoscopes is the first step, usually done by parents of the girl and the boy. Post matching of the horoscopes, engagement ceremony is done, during which “Muhurtham” or the auspicious date of the marriage is finalized using Panchangam (A book that contains auspicious times and dates) in consultation with the astrologers. Post the engagement ceremony, a grand Sadya (traditional Malayali Meal served on a Banana leaf) is served.

Wedding Rituals

The Groom arrives which his family & friends at the bride’s house in traditional attire – “dhoti” and “angavastram”. Bride’s father welcomes the groom him and washes his feet. The groom then hands over the off white sari that has to be worn by the bride for the marriage. The “Veli” or the marriage ceremony is performed around the “agni” (fire). The bride and the groom circle around the sacred fire thrice. After the sacred rounds around the fire, bride’s father ties the “Taali”, which is strung on a yellow thread around the neck of the bride. Thereafter the bride’s father gives her hand to the groom in a ceremony called “Kanyadaanam”. After the Kanyadaanam, “Sparsham” takes place wherein the groom sits in front of the bride and tilts his head backwards, to touch her forehead. After this the girl offers “Laja” (puffed rice) to the fire to the chant of various mantras. Her palms are placed in groom’s hands and she performs the “hom”. After this, the groom lifts the bride’s foot and places it on the “Ammi” (grinding stone) which signifies breaking of her ties from her old family. The groom then moves the bride’s foot forward seven times with his hand symbolizing her entry into his family.

Post Wedding Rituals

After the wedding a grand feast is arranged. Then the bride leaves for her husband’s home at a chosen auspicious time, after taking blessings of her parents and all elders present at the venue. “Grihapravesh” ceremony is performed at the groom’s house to welcome her arrival. As she reaches her new house, the women at the groom’s house perform ‘aarti’ to cast off evil eye.

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