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Do You Bother About Inter-Caste Marriage?

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Inter Caste Marriage

Marriage in India is considered as one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family you always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. We are ok with your love marriage, but not with inter-caste love marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

The younger generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage.

Rashmi Soni, 28 years, Senior Creative Designer, MNC, Gurgaon said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.

In another conversation with Investment Banker, Anurag Singh, 30 years, shared with us that he too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if that girl is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For him caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.

Lakhshita Tonk, 27 years, working as Financial Analyst with a financial firm in Hyderabad, said that she likes someone in her office and planning to get married soon. He is from a different caste and she mentioned that if there is no problem in working someone from a different community. You can be good friends if you are from different caste why you can’t marry someone from a different caste. She mentioned that understanding and compatibility has nothing to do with caste. This is just a norm which we all follow to get the societal acceptance to our relationship.

Dinesh Garg, 26 years, Senior Risk Management Analyst, CA firm Pune, said that he is working in Pune with a CA firm and earning good. He mentioned that he will not bother much about the caste of his life partner if he finds someone compatible and a perfect match. He wants someone who will be understanding and supportive. He wants someone who understands his professional liabilities and mature enough to handle situation at her own. So, caste is not the main criteria for marriage, but a better match with higher understanding is preferred.

We, also discussed the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

Rajat Jha, 54 years, PWD officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. It will be difficult for her to adjust with new rituals and new things in life. We love to do thing the way we see them from out childhood. It is difficult to follow new rituals and get adjusted. Therefore, he doesn’t want to search someone from a different caste.

Kuldeep Nair, 58 years, Banker is also not convinced with the idea of finding a match for his son/daughter in different caste. He said that it might be it will take some time to find a good match or a perfect match within the community, but it is not difficult. He further mentioned that we are Pandit, we follow certain rituals and traditions which are different from other communities. I don’t want that my daughter or daughter-in-law will follow some different rituals. It will create problem and make life more complicated for the member to get adjusted with new styles and traditions. He further added, if you get married in a different caste you feel like that you are from a different planet and have nothing to say, rather just to follow everything blindly.

Santoshi Mathur, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. She said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, she also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.

Why you should do inter-caste marriage? Why you should not do inter-caste marriage?
Caste is not the problem in any marriage Social acceptance is lower
You will learn new customs and rituals Lower chances of finding a better match for other kids within community
You feel that now you are part of two different societies Adjustment issues in accepting and learning new customs and  rituals
You feel more connected Cultural differences
You start respecting other customs and make you more mature People still consider it as stigma

 

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Appreciate Your Husband to Strengthen Your Relationship

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The relationship of husband and wife is built over trust and love. It is one of the most important and integral part of married life. Apart from love and appreciation, you also require a lot of things to get going and enjoy a happy relationship. Appreciating your husband doesn’t mean that you are buttering him or you have some hidden desires because of that you are praising. But, true appreciation with pure feelings is very important to show your love and to strengthen your relationship with husband. We all love words of appreciation and similar thing exist in our marriage as well. Your husband also expects word of appreciation from you to feel great. Here, we are sharing some tips to appreciate your husband and strengthen your relationship.

Appreciate his efforts: If he is doing something for you out of love or because he is worried for you. It is important to appreciate his efforts. If he is good with something like collecting something, or he is very organized or something which you think that you must acknowledge, so appreciate his efforts.

Appreciate his taste: We all have some special qualities and your husband must be having something special. If his fashion sense is outstanding and he is good with it, then don’t forget to mention it or appreciate it. If he is too foodie and loves to explore and experiment with food, or loves to explore new places, then appreciate him and enjoy his company.

Show your trust: No relationship can survive in the absence of trust and faith. Always show your trust and faith in him. When you discuss anything with him or he asked you to take some important decision because he thinks it is good for your family, then show your trust in his decision. While taking important decisions ask for his opinion and views. Take his help and show him that you believe in him.

Praise him for his decision-making ability: When he makes some important decisions like financial decision, professional decision or something else, respect his decision skills. In such situation where his decisions helped you to sail through bad time, don’t praise his decision-making skills. Show your trust in his right decisions.

Show him respect: Respecting your partner is very important. Respecting your partner doesn’t mean that you never say anything or put your opinion. Showing respect to your partner means you respect and love him for what he is. Make him feel that he is your hero and he is perfect for you. He must feel special and great for being what he is.

Don’t forget to compliment: If he is looking good, then don’t forget to tell him that he is looking handsome or great in your own ways. Complimenting your partner will help in strengthening your love with your partner.

Compliment his patience: For instance, if he is visiting some showroom with you to buy something and he is being patient with it then respects his patience. He will be more than receptive when your next request comes later on. Appreciating him and complimenting his effort will make him feel that he holds some special place in your heart and life.

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Want To Stay Happy After Marriage? Accept Your Partner’s Flaws

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We all want to enjoy a happy and blissful marriage. All of us enter into this blissful relationship with the hope that everything is really fair and shiny. Once your honeymoon is over, you land into the reality of the marriage, where you both return to your workplaces with extended responsibilities of home. You also face the new responsibility of sparing some extra time for each-other. In such stiff situation, there are chances that your spouse may not have it all what you expected. You are two different personalities and your thought process and attitude towards life is also different. So, in such a new environment when you find it hard to maintain balance, the trick to stay happy is finding, something which is common between you. Here are some tricks to make your happy marriage.

Accept each-other honestly: In this relationship, it is important that you stay happy and accept your spouse honestly. A relationship which is based on mutual understanding and trust can make your life journey easy. There comes a time when you and your spouse don’t agree over something and you both are firm on your decisions. Always remember that you and your spouse have some flaws and you both are not perfect. Find a midway and accept each-other with not only the good side of your spouse, but with flaws as well.

Don’t put conditions on your love: Conditional love is something when you love your spouse when your requirements or wishes are fulfilled. But, such kind of love is not love, but materialistic expectations from your spouse. This kind of love will lead to marital troubles.  Therefore, don’t put conditions on your love to enjoy the blissful married life.

Don’t try to change your spouse: This is one thing which most of us keep trying in our married life. Or at times you make it agenda of your life to bring changes in your spouse. Your spouse is an individual with different thought process and personality. If you try to force your ideas on your spouse, you will surely face a negative response or might be very strong reaction. Therefore, always keep this in mind that you are there to make things better not to make things worse.

Appreciate the positive side: You should always appreciate the positive side of your spouse. There must be something which is unique and different in your spouse. Instead of looking at the flaws, focus on the positive side of your spouse. Don’t forget to compliment your spouse for the good things.

Don’t pay attention to gossip: It might be you are listening to a lot of things about your spouse or his/her family. But to stay happy in a relationship, it is important to have trust on your life partner. Ignore the gossips, you and your spouse are a team and you should not participate in such conversations.

Accept responsibility: Avoiding or escaping from your responsibilities can lead to arguments and frustration in a marriage. Therefore, it is important that you bear your responsibility well. Always remember that you two are a team and you have to work together as a team to make things work. Being married doesn’t mean that only you or spouse is responsible to bear all the responsibilities. Accept each-other and always be a helping hand for your spouse.

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Never Say These Things To Your Spouse When You Fight: Use Stop Button

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Marriage is one of the most blissful relationships. This is not a relationship which is god gifted to you as blood relation, but a relationship which you develop over the period of time be it arranged marriage or love marriage. But, all things have two sides, one is positive and another is not that good. Even in marriage, married couples faces various issues from dealing with day-to-day activities to brutal arguments and fights. While fighting with your spouse you forget about your love and respect, the one thing which overpowers your mind is you want to prove your point right. Therefore, it is important to understand the situation and always fight fair with your spouse. Here are a few things which you should never say to spouse when you are fighting.

Making negative comments about family and friends is always a no-no thing when you are fighting with your spouse. It might irritate him/her more and will add more fire into your arguments. Therefore, try to avoid such statements when you are fighting.

When you are in the middle of any argument or fight, don’t bring the old and dead topics in between. It will mislead you from the main topic and your argument will go in another direction.

Saying anything about the looks and appearance is totally disastrous during the fight. If you will say that he/she looks fat or ugly, it will hurt his/her emotions and will work as sniper.  So, avoid discussing or making comments about looks.

During the fight when you avoid telling the actual problem it is really harmful. If you will not tell the actual reason behind your anger, it will make you feel irritated and agitated. That’s why it is necessary to tell the reason why you get into this argument or the thing which is annoying you.

Most of us make mistake by comparing your couple with other person. It not only hurt his/her emotions, but also gives them a sense that you are not happy with him/her. It might prove more dangerous for your relationship in long term.

Adding comment from your parent’s side or bringing their opinion in your fight can add more fire in your arguments. What your mother thinks over a certain topic or what his father thinks about you/something should not be dragged between your arguments.

No matter how much annoyed you are with your partner and you don’t want to talk with him/her never say that you want to get separate or want to take divorce. Divorce is a big thing and should not be said so easily as a simple way out to deal with the situation.

Never play blame game in your fight. You are not a kid that you need someone to play the blame game to keep your collar clean. During any argument doesn’t play blame game about what you did and what he/she did. Take charge of the situation and avoid blame game.

Don’t make comment that earlier you used to do this, now you are not enjoying the same lifestyle or comforts. It will hurt sentiments of your wife/husband. It might be he/she held himself/herself responsible for this. So making comments about lifestyle and living standard will add more bitterness.

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5 Things You Should Always Do When You Are Meeting Someone For Arranged Marriage

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Are you going to meet him/her for the first time for arranged marriage? Are you feeling nervous or feeling excited to meet your future partner? Are you clueless about what you should you do on your first meeting when you meet him? If you are among those youngsters who are going to meet your future partner soon, then don’t worry we are here to help you. It is not tough to make your first impression lasting and listening ‘YES’ from him/her. Just make some smart moves and be little cautious when you are going to meet him/her for the first time.

Dress accordingly: When you are going to meet someone for the first time in arranged marriage concept, then dress accordingly. Don’t dress over the top and in too glittering clothes. It might be that you like your favorite suit so much, but if it is too loud, resist the temptation to wear it. Go for some simple and sophisticate dress.

Always remember to greet: Whether you are meeting him/her in the restaurant or at some temple or somewhere else don’t forget to say “Hello” or “Hi”. It is important to greet in the proper manner and begin the conversation. If you will not greet him or her it will give a bad impression.

Don’t think it is job interview: Don’t behave like you are sitting in an interview room and you need to pretend and say yes to every question or give detailed reply to every question asked to you. It is sometimes better to give reply in short and simple words.

Ask relevant questions: In your first meeting, if you are bit nervous and not sure about the right choice of questions, then filter your words and try to be more logical and specific with your questions. It is not important to ask questions for the sake of asking questions. Ask relevant questions and don’t ask questions about past love life, any sexual encounter, or something related to virginity or similar personal question. It might be the other person feel offended over such kind of questions and think a kind of attack on their character.

Be a good listener & observe body language: Meeting someone doesn’t mean that you need to just talk, talk and talk. Listening and observing the body language will be more helpful than talking irrelevant things. It will help in understanding the other person in a better way. Body language and facial expression are true self and you will be able to able to find out what is hidden behind the words. If the other person is thinking something positive about you he/she will give you a smile and will make eye contact with you. But if he/she is not interest in you he will avoid asking many questions and will avoid eye contact as well. So pay attention to body language and listen with attention.

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