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Interesting Facts about Telugu Weddings

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Telugu people belong to the land of Andhra Pradesh or Telangana. Telugu  matrimony follows the traditional Hindu wedding rituals.

Some interesting facts about Telugu Weddings, for this matrimonial site

1) Traditionally, these ceremonies lasted for sixteen days. These days, the ceremony lasts for just two or more days;

2) Matrimonial customs are performed depending on the caste of the Indian bride and Indian groom;

3) The families of the Indian bride and Indian groom personally go to guests’ houses and invite them with ‘kumkum’ (colorful, red powder);

4) In one of the pre-matrimony ritual, the Indian groom takes a holy bath, (known as ‘Snatakam’), few hours before the wedding. This bath marks his ‘graduation’ from bachelorhood to the householder. After the holy bath, the groom wears a silver thread on his body;

5) In another pre-matrimony ritual (known as ‘Kashi Yatra’), the groom declares celibacy and expresses his intent to go to ‘Kashi’ (also known as Varanasi) to pursue higher studies. The Indian bride’s brother stops the Indian groom, pleads him to reconsider his decision, requests him to marry his sister and become a householder. This ritual is light-hearted, involving camaraderie between the Indian groom and his future brother-in-law. The Indian groom, of course, agrees to marry his Indian bride in the end!

6) Telugu matrimony usually takes place towards midnight;

7) On the morning of the matrimony, the Indian groom performs the ‘Ganesha Puja.’ The Indian bride performs the ‘Gauri Puja.’ During this time, a ritual known as ‘Pravara’ is performed. In this ritual, the bride’s clan (‘gotram’) is changed from her father’s to her would-be husband’s;

8) Traditionally, the Indian groom would ride an elephant to the ceremony (‘GajaArohana’-arrival on an elephant), but this practice is declining with the passage of time;

9) During the matrimonial ceremony of ‘Kanyadaan’ (or giving away the bride), the Indian bride is brought to the wedding venue (‘mandap’) by her maternal uncle in a bamboo basket;

10) The Indian bride’s parents wash the Indian groom’s feet (who for matrimony, is considered the incarnation of Lord Vishnu).

11) After ‘Kanyadan,’ the bride is accompanied by ten married women. Six of them carrying plates of sacred rice (a mixture of rice and turmeric powder), while the remaining four carry small lit lamps. Rice for abundance and lit lamps for light.

12) There is a curtain that separates the Indian bride and the Indian groom, who are not allowed to look at one another;

13) Between recitations of wedding hymns, the bride and the groom place on each other’s forehead a paste of jaggery and cumin seeds, symbolizing the eternity and strength of the relationship;

14) The Indian bride and the Indian groom then pour the sacred rice on each other’s head, while cupping their hands to hold the rice as the priest recites wedding hymns.

15) The Indian groom adorns the feet of his bride with silver toe rings. He bends down to slip these rings on her toes, thus claiming her for himself.

16) Both the bride and the groom are shown double stars representing the union of Arundhati and Sage Vasista, who epitomize the perfect couple.

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The Importance of the Father-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law Relationship

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One will find reams and reams of writing on the complexity of a Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law relationship, but one hardly finds much advice, even on matrimonial websites, on how an Indian Bride can forge a healthy relationship with the father of the Indian Groom, i.e, the Father-in-Law and the importance of such ties.

In our patriarchal society, even though men are heads of the families and take all the major decisions, the truth is, it is the women who control the behind-the-scene actions. Be it managing the inter-connected , complicated relationships between various family members, the business of the running of the house, looking after the family members etc. The men, especially the father take a backseat.

An Indian girl grows up in the loving and pampering care of her family, especially her father. To a girl, her father is the best man ever. Upon matrimony, when she leaves the cocooned comfort of her father’s home and steps in the matrimonial home, the Indian bride is expected to deep dive and be a part of her new family from the word go. It is unfair. Even though there are more nuclear families these days, such expectations are still prevalent.

This is where the father-in-law can play an important role. He can pseudo step in the shoes of the bride’s father and take his daughter-in-law under his wing. It is essential for a newly wedded Indian bride to understand this. She is not expected to look up to the Indian groom’s father as her father because emotionally that is not possible, but she can look up to her father-in-law as a friend and a guide.

Look at this way, the father-in-law, though he takes a backseat in the day to day functioning of the house, knows everyone in the family well enough. The father-in-law can initiate his new daughter-in-law to understand every person in her new family, what works with what and whom. He can even stand up for her or mediate in case of misunderstandings or problems; something a mother-in-law or husband usually does not do. By creating a relationship of mutual trust and understanding with her father-in-law, the new Indian bride can slowly make inroads and her place in her matrimonial home.

An Indian bride should, therefore, make efforts (even before the matrimony) to find out more about her father-in-law: his routine, his favorite foods, his interests and tastes, his childhood and youth memories, his friends and even his problems. Such efforts will allow the daughter-in-law to create a warm and healthy friendship with her husband’s father; almost like a father and daughter relationship.

Remember, even though it is the women who rule the house, the father-in-law is the head of the family. When it comes to crises or serious family tension, he is expected to stand up and take a call/decision. It is essential for an Indian bride to be in a favorable relationship with her father-in-law because more often than not, he will stand up to her and support her.

The Indian Dowry System and its Downfall

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Not many matrimonial websites will tackle this issue, but we need to understand the genesis of the dowry system and its present ugly nature. During matrimony, the Indian bride’s family is expected to ‘willingly gift’ the Indian groom and his family cash, gold, car and other material goods as dowry.

Dowry system was not always the scourge of our society. In ancient times, since girls were not allowed to inherit land, property or cattle, she was given gifts of gold ornaments, clothes, utensils,etc., during matrimony. Clothes and utensils to help her set up her new home. Gold ornaments were safety net in times of financial duress. These items were always hers; never claimed either by her husband or his family. In many cases, prospective grooms offered to the prospective bride. If she changed her mind, she had the right to keep the gifts with her.

It was not until 1035 A.D. when one finds the mention of the Indian bride’s family offering gifts to the Indian groom. Usually, the well-off families of the groom brought gifts; low-income families couldn’t, however, that never came in the way of the real purpose of matrimony.

Over time the practice has degenerated to such an extent that it has become a social evil, with its roots deep across all strata and religions of India.

Reasons why this evil pervades in our society:

1) Inferior Position of Women – No matter how well qualified, educated, financially independent a girl is, in our patriarchal society she holds a position inferior to the man. The Indian bride and her family are expected to appease the Indian groom and his family to acknowledge this superior position.

2) Greed – The Indian groom’s family see their son a ticket to fortune. The Indian bride’s family is expected to compensate the groom’s family for the ‘cost’ and ‘effort’ of raising an eligible son.

3) Social Pressure – Matrimony as an institution is held sacred by Indians. Divorce is a taboo and to see a girl return back to her parental home, is considered a shame. Knowing this, the Indian groom and his family believe they have the freedom to harass the Indian bride and her family for more dowry, leading to torture and even death.

4) Reluctance to abide by the law – There are laws to protect the Indian bride and make dowry an offence, but it is the lack of adequate education, social pressure, etc. that prevents the bride’s family from taking help of law.

Dowry system is the main reason why Indian families prefer bearing sons; there is widespread female infanticide, suicide among women to escape the torture at the hands of in-laws and shame at the hands of her family.

To get rid of this evil, women must be educated, financially independent, must have control over their finances, and must be allowed to inherit from her father. There should be no shame associated with late marriage, being single women or even divorce. Women and their families must be made aware of the various laws to protect them (Dowry Prohibition Act 1961, Section 304B of the Indian Penal Code, Section 302 of IPC, Section 498A of IPC, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005).

Role of Family Support behind a Happy Married Life

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The rudimentary concept of the society is that it is in a state of interdependence. While growing up, we learn the values and acclimatize ourselves according to the same society we live in. In our lives, we come across a web of diverse relationships from our immediate family in particular and to society in general.

These relationships shape our lives. But as the general notion goes, the basic fundamental relationship that makes our society is of marriage. Good marriages are the nitty-gritty of strong societies.  Marriages are bolstered together not only by two partners but by a chain of relationships that surrounds them.

What else goes into a happy marriage besides the bride and groom?

Many argue that it is just two partners who ultimately make a marriage work out. This is obviously a gospel truth, but we live in a social setup wherein additional support counts and makes a huge difference. None of us can live in solitary on a long lost island with our partner and never grow tired or irritated at some point in time.

There is always something special about an  Indian groom and Indian bride as they are always regarded as not just two individuals, but a part of a larger family.

Our current social setup is a hierarchy, and our family is the crown. When a relationship like marriage is thought upon, the families of the bride and groom provide the ultimate support. Families are the ubiquitous web of relationships which boosts the growth and development of every member throughout the life cycle, from birth to the old age.

The culture we live in considers matrimony as a family affair. Marriages are validated, witnessed and supported by our families in most of the cases. We undertake a lifelong commitment to supporting loving and caring for a partner we choose. Our families act may act as strengthening glue and minimize the friction. Relationships become much more amicable and gratifying when you have the additional support to make them work.

Nothing Can Take the Place of Family Support

A strong and supportive family protects and strengthens a couple’s matrimony by making it facile for the partners to endure marital stress. In many cases, families help couples to see the best in each other. Families keep on reminding a couple about how good both are together, or how good the chemistry is. Now as applicable to every other relationship, boring is lethal in marriage too.

If the family is friendly and supportive, they might encourage the couple to live life fully together. This encouragement is most important when a couple is trying to adjust as newlyweds. It is stressful when two partners are entirely dependent on each other. Here is when family support comes in. Family in such cases provide additional support so that the partners in a marriage are not solely reliant on one another.

If you think about it, the stare of a matrimonial resides in a gravitational field. The two partners are of course in a union which is strengthened by convivial charges instilled in them, but they are also strengthened and held together by all the other forces moving around in the same gravitational field.

Marriage can survive between two individuals against many odds, but it’s a confidence booster when you can count on additional support to tackle those odds!

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