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5 Questions to ask during first meeting in an Arranged Marriage

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When your family starts showing you pics of relevant matches and your marriage is one and the only topic of discussion on the dinner table, it is obvious to get nervous and excited with the thought of leaving your own privacy and comfort to settle down with someone who is completely new to you. That’s how an arranged marriage scenario feels like. You meet prospective matches that have come across from various sources like friends, relatives, online matrimonial sites or more. Essentially whatever be the source, the fact that the prospect is unknown to you prevails.

It’s true that your family would have performed checks at their end before taking up the proposal to you. They would have ensured that the family is well off matching own social standards, the prospect is well educated and professionally settled and various other criteria which can be mapped at a superficial level would have been taken care of. But marriage is not just about social, financial & educational equality; it is much beyond that. There are lot many ingredients that go on to build a happy marriage, which probably can’t be evaluated by family.

Here are a few questions that you must ask during your first one on one meeting with your prospective Indian bride/ Indian groom to understand your compatibility with each other before taking a final call.

1) What are your hobbies and interests?

Though it might seem to be a very basic question to ask, a lot can be inferred from the reply you receive. A person with completely opposite interests than yours could be very difficult to live with. For example, if your partner is an outgoing social person and you are an introvert who loves to confine to yourself and your immediate family, then there could be conflicts when you are together.

2) What are your expectations from your partner?

Knowing the expectations of your prospective partner and making your expectations clear at an initial level is always good as it will help you prepare for the future. Moreover, this topic might surprise you with some unrealistic expectations that your prospective partner might have which you may not be capable enough or willing to deliver. Having a clear stand on such things will avoid any future clashes.

3) What are your future goals and plan?

This is again a very relevant question, both from partners’ perspective. It is as important for a man to know the future plans of his lady as it is important for a lady to know about her man. A highly ambitious career oriented lady who is not willing to sacrifice her career post marriage definitely needs an understanding husband. To find such understanding husband or to be one needs a different mindset that still is rarely prevalent in Indian Scenario.

4) Are you ready to accept responsibility towards both families?

Girls are anyhow expected to take up the responsibility of the new family, but whether the boy is also willing to execute his responsibilities towards his new family? Or is he the same orthodox person who believes that his wife should take care of his parents like her own whereas as a son-in-law he would have no moral responsibility towards his in-laws, i.e. his wife’s parents. This will give you an idea about your partner’s mentality and thought process and can a major influencer on your decision.

5) How do you fantasize your relationship with your partner?

This is to get each other’s perspective about your relationship as a couple. Whether you would like to have a friend in partner with whom you can be yourself and open up your heart without any fear. Though this seems to be an idealistic image but the answer can actually tell you a lot about their mindset and behavior.

Tips to Manage Finances Post Marriage

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Matrimony is not just about finding a perfect match but also about working out the various aspects of relationship post marriage. Online Matrimonial Sites can help you find a perfect match but managing your relationship post marriage is something that you have to work on. An important aspect of a marital relationship is the efficient handling of finances. A well-organized management of finances brings in peace and harmony. If both the partners are earning then jointly managing the funds and expenses with transparency and without clashes is an art. Whereas in case of only one partner as earning arm, it becomes all the more important to be transparent about the available funds and manage all expenses accordingly.

Here are a few tips for smooth management of finances:

1) Work as a Team – Set your goals as a team and estimate the efforts, funds and investments required to fulfill those in the required time frame. It is thus crucial for both to be on the same page first with a common vision to properly work as a team. Find ways to accomplish those goals. Be each other’s support and encourager. Being aware of your weaknesses and strengths as a couple will give you confidence.

2) Share Responsibilities – Finance management by a couple is not about having a rushed discussion with each other and then one person taking the entire responsibility for the couple. Rather it involves both partners working together and sharing responsibilities equally. Both husband and wife need to take part in planning, decision making, budgeting, spending and more.

3) Be Candid – Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to financial management in a matrimonial relationship. For any mistaken spends or investment that have turned otherwise, do confess with your partner. This might give rise to some unpleasant moments initially but eventually will strengthen your relationship owning to amplified trust and respect for each other.

4) Trust Your Spouse – Unless you have got a reason to doubt, trust your new spouse to handle money. Holding all responsibilities to yourself or watching every move he or she makes is supercilious and demeaning. Do not try to keep a tab on each and every penny spent, rather – trust him or her.

5) Identify the Right Level of Risk as a Couple – Your spouse and yourself might not always be on the same page when considering investments. The frequency of risk-taking mindset might vary or even be at extremes. At such times, you both need to settle down at a level you both are comfortable with. It has to be a compromise rather than one person dominating over the other.

6) Gain from each other’s experience – Everyone has a different level of expertise in different fields. You might be good at managing and controlling day to day expenses whereas your partner might be good at managing investments or vice versa. As mentioned previously, analyze your strengths and weaknesses as a couple and then divide the responsibilities.

7) Don’t get hyper while discussing finances – In any adverse situation keep a control over your emotions and anger to be specific. Reacting in fury won’t do any help but instead would spoil your relationship. Discuss sensitive finance matters calmly and address the issues as a team rather than as individuals.

8) Reminisce your Wedding Vows – Eventually, successful matrimony alliance is all about keeping to the vows you made. When you vowed to stand by your spouse in all circumstances, stand by your vows. You will face good times and bad times as a couple and try not to let money issues worsen your difficult times. Don’t let the financial matters be a reason for a tiff between you and your spouse rather use it as an opportunity to grow closer.

5 Tips to Build Strong Bond during Courtship Period

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Indian matrimonial industry has evolved immensely over the last few decades. The way marriages were arranged and organized has changed a lot. Earlier the sole responsibility of fixing the matches used to be of the family and close relatives or middlemen but with changing times and rise in number of nuclear families, even the thought process has seen a shift. People have started to take help of the online matrimonial sites to search for life partner for their kith and kin.

Not just the means to search life partner but also the time given to the couple after finalization till marriage has seen a drastic change. Earlier the time lag between the finalization and the wedding used to be very short and even in that short duration, the girl and the boy were not encouraged to be in touch with each other. But now-a-days there is usually a decent enough time span between the finalization and wedding, and the would-be couple is encouraged to interact with each other to understand each other better. This period, commonly known as courtship period, can be utilized effectively by the couples to their advantage and build a strong bond even before marriage.

Here are a few things that you must be doing while in your courtship period to build a strong base to your marriage:

Spend quality time together

Try to spend as much time as possible with each other. Understand each other’s preferences, non-preferences, likes, dislikes, priorities etc. This will help you prepare for the time when you would start staying together under one roof as husband & wife.

Get familiar with new family

Use this period to know about your new family and their expectations from you. Getting connected with them before marriage will ease your process of settling down post marriage. Get a little accustomed to their lifestyle, routines, rituals etc. to be able to adjust with them seamlessly post marriage.

Plan your wedding event

For sure, you both would be equally excited for your wedding day. Since it will be a special day for you two, hence it makes much sense to plan for it together. You both would have a certain set of expectations for the day, and sharing these with one another will ensure that you both complement each other’s expectations.

Discuss about Your Honeymoon

Honeymoon is a phase that you would not like to miss upon. It is always a good idea to choose a place that you both have a liking for. Deciding on a place that you both like, will ensure that you both enjoy your honeymoon period to the fullest. Also, it will create the best memories of your life. Also, you can plan together on what all activities you would like to do while on honeymoon.

Plan Your Future

Though you might think it to be little early for such a discussion, but it’s good to discuss and plan about your future goals. This will give your partner enough time to adjust and settle accordingly and this goes for both the boy and the girl. This could include discussions about career, family planning and many more.

Clearing Myths About Matrimonial Sites in India!

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Mr. Gorav Aggarwal, Founder & President of Lovevivah.com in a recent conversation with a leading news daily shared his views & cleared the myths about the #matrimonial industry.


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