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How to Start a Great Married Life

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The way foundation works for a building, likewise is the role of initial years in laying a strong base for a happy and successful married life. The way you treat each other, things that you do and expectations you set, is what that will set the scene for the rest of the years. These initial years can be best used to focus on each other as a priority before the other priorities appear in your life in the form of kids, career planning and more. Materialistic stuffs are good to have and of course do add to your happiness, but they cannot assure a happy and successful married life. There is much more as an ingredient to successful marriage:

Love & commitment: Not just a mere feeling of affection, but a strong commitment to stand by in all ups and downs of life is what defines the true love in a marriage. Commitment is easily adhered to when things are going smooth, but the real test happens in the time of trials.

Faithfulness: A subset of commitment, being faithful means committing to that one person wholly, from body, mind, heart and soul. Even offering moments of emotional intimacy to another person, somewhere it’s a sacrifice on faithfulness.

Transparency: Be an open book to your partner. Hiding stuffs or moulding things in front of your partner will create hitches that will grow with the passing time. Your partner should be the one person you could confide in, irrespective of the situation.

Modesty: No one is perfect. Every individual and every relationship has some weak areas. The key is to accept them and work to build on them. Accept you weak points and identify the areas where your partner is stronger. This will help you stay humble. Try to strengthen as a couple rather than as individuals.

Patience & Forgiveness: Since no individual is perfect, patience and forgiveness always form a critical part of a marriage relationship. Be tolerant to your partner even if things are not working out your way. Successful life-partners learn to show endless patience and forgiveness to their other half. Do not hold to past offences from your partner, rather forgive him/her and to keep your relationship free of any such burdens.

Time Investment: Time has always been of prime significance in any relationship. No relationship has ever worked or will work in deficiency of time. Moreover, not the quantity but the quality of time you spend together is what matters. Relationship with spouse is the most intimate and deep and hence requires more time than any other relationship. It’s a nice practice to set aside sometime each day for just two of you. A date night once a while can be an add-on.

Communication: Communicate as much as possible to make your marriage successful. Discuss about kids, your work schedules, grocery list, utility bills and whatever that comes to your mind. But don’t just stop there; also express your hopes, dreams, fears, and concerns. Discuss whatever that comes to your mind under the earth. It will help you two get closer and bond stronger for the years to come.

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7 must have Sarees for a Bengali Bride

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No matter how westernized we become saree still remains the most attractive and appealing attire for an Indian woman. Bengal which has been known for its tradition and customs since ages unknown is a perfect portrayal of the same. That too when it comes to weddings, you cannot overlook the significance of sarees. Thought of a Bengali marriage will bring forth the imageries of beautiful ladies dressed in authentic Bengali sarees and being the center of attraction with their captivating looks.

There are a wide variety of Bengali sarees with vibrant colors and looks and every Bengali bride must have at least one of each type in her wardrobe.

Korial Saree

The Korial lal pari saree is the most famous Bengali saree. It is a crisp white saree with a red border. It is a typical white sari with a red border, with a deeper shade of red and solid color in it. Married women generally wear this simple and timeless saree

Taant Saree

It is a Crisp and soft cotton saree. Though it now comes in many vibrant colors, but traditionally it is a white and red bordered sari and is something that every Bengali lady would have in her wardrobe.

Garad Saree

Garad is quite similar to the Korial saree. A non-bengali would not even be ab;e to differentiate between the two. Garad sarees are also white in color with a red border. However, unlike the Korial saree, Garad saree has a lighter red border with flower-shaped symbols and other motifs spread across that give it an attractive and feminine look.

Murshidabad Silk Saree

Silk sarees are not only famous in the northern and southern part of India, but even West Bengal has a plethora of lovely silk sarees. Murshidabad silk sarees are the most famous among the Bengal silk sarees. They are light in weight and have beautifully printed designs. They are ideal for small get-togethers as well as extravagant functions.

Dhakai Jamdani Saree

These were initially made in Dhaka, which was a part of West Bengal before partition. Hence the name derived as “Dhakai”. However they are quite famous in the state of Bengal even today.  Jamdani refers to the typical style of print or design that you can see on this saree. It is almost transparent and woven with a mixture of silk and cotton. These are a must-have for high profiled events, parties, weddings and more in Bengal.

Baluchari Sarees

The origin of Baluchari sarees hails from a village named Baluchar in Murshidabad. These are silk sarees made of Tussar or pure silk, with floral designs running across the body of the saree, while the pallu is remarkable with scenes from Indian mythology, including the Ramayana and the Mahabharata.

Tussar Sarees

Tussar is produced in several places, but majorly in the town of Malda in West Bengal. Tussar silk is bit coarse in texture and is used to manufacture a varied range of silk saris in the state.  Typically, the patta and the butti style of this saree is famous among Bengali women.

If you are a bengali bride, you cannot afford to miss on any of the above sarees. And if you are looking for Bengali Grooms for marriage, you cannot afford to miss registering on LoveVivah.com Bengali matrimony site.

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5 Tips to Build Strong Bond during Courtship Period

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Indian matrimonial industry has evolved immensely over the last few decades. The way marriages were arranged and organized has changed a lot. Earlier the sole responsibility of fixing the matches used to be of the family and close relatives or middlemen but with changing times and rise in number of nuclear families, even the thought process has seen a shift. People have started to take help of the online matrimonial sites to search for life partner for their kith and kin.

Not just the means to search life partner but also the time given to the couple after finalization till marriage has seen a drastic change. Earlier the time lag between the finalization and the wedding used to be very short and even in that short duration, the girl and the boy were not encouraged to be in touch with each other. But now-a-days there is usually a decent enough time span between the finalization and wedding, and the would-be couple is encouraged to interact with each other to understand each other better. This period, commonly known as courtship period, can be utilized effectively by the couples to their advantage and build a strong bond even before marriage.

Here are a few things that you must be doing while in your courtship period to build a strong base to your marriage:

Spend quality time together

Try to spend as much time as possible with each other. Understand each other’s preferences, non-preferences, likes, dislikes, priorities etc. This will help you prepare for the time when you would start staying together under one roof as husband & wife.

Get familiar with new family

Use this period to know about your new family and their expectations from you. Getting connected with them before marriage will ease your process of settling down post marriage. Get a little accustomed to their lifestyle, routines, rituals etc. to be able to adjust with them seamlessly post marriage.

Plan your wedding event

For sure, you both would be equally excited for your wedding day. Since it will be a special day for you two, hence it makes much sense to plan for it together. You both would have a certain set of expectations for the day, and sharing these with one another will ensure that you both complement each other’s expectations.

Discuss about Your Honeymoon

Honeymoon is a phase that you would not like to miss upon. It is always a good idea to choose a place that you both have a liking for. Deciding on a place that you both like, will ensure that you both enjoy your honeymoon period to the fullest. Also, it will create the best memories of your life. Also, you can plan together on what all activities you would like to do while on honeymoon.

Plan Your Future

Though you might think it to be little early for such a discussion, but it’s good to discuss and plan about your future goals. This will give your partner enough time to adjust and settle accordingly and this goes for both the boy and the girl. This could include discussions about career, family planning and many more.

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Simple Yet Exquisite Tamil Matrimony Rituals

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Tamil Matrimony involves simple yet quintessential rituals that have been followed since time immemorial. It is an undeniable fact that traditions and cultures are of prime importance to Tamilians. Though many rituals in Traditional Tamil wedding within the Tamil community have changed a bit over the years, yet they are still being carried out with the same level of enthusiasm and devotion. Tamil marriages are also quite popular for their colorful functions and traditional rituals. The rituals carried out before the actual wedding is usually quite extensive and elaborate as compared to those carried out after. Here are some of the rituals that take place as a part of the Tamil marriage:

1. Pallikali Thalippu: In this ritual, 7 clay pots is embellished using Kumkum powder and Sandalwood paste.  They are then incorporated with 9 varieties of grain, also called Nava dhanyam and curd. These rituals have been performed since ancient times and are mostly performed with great sanctity and belief.

2. Kalyanaponnu: This ritual involves giving a bath to the  Tamil bride to be with pure turmeric mixed with other essential oils. This particular ritual is common in both bride and groom’s house. It is believed that after this ceremony, both bride and groom cannot leave their house and not see each other until the wedding ceremony is completed.

3. Naandi Shrardham: Before the wedding, both the families of the bride and groom seek the blessings of their ancestors and pray to the souls of their ancestors. They also invite around 10 or more Brahmins and the respective families serve them South Indian feast. The feast includes sweets, flowers, coconuts, fruits, pan Supari, traditional South Indian clothes etc.

4. Nichayathartham (Engagement): Mainly performed by the bride’s family in Tamil wedding, this ritual starts with a Ganesh Puja. After the Puja, the groom’s family hands over the clothes, jewelry, and gifts to the bride. On the other hand bride’s family gives the clothes and gifts to the groom. Then both bride and groom wear the dress given by each other family. This is followed by groom’s sister applying tilak and kumkum on the bride’s forehead whereas bride’s brother applying the same on the groom’s forehead. Later, bride and groom exchange engagement rings in the presence of their near and dear ones.

5. Wedding Ceremony: After the groom arrives, the bride’s mother washes the feet of the groom with the mix of water, Chandan, and kumkum. The bride then enters the mandap and they exchange the exquisite flower garlands as a part of the ritual, also known as Maalai Maatral followed by Oonjal, known as swing ceremony.

Thereafter is performed Kanyanadanam, when the bride’s father hands over daughter’s hand to the groom for the lifetime. The groom then applies sindoor on the bride’s head and ties a Mangalsutra also known as Thaali around her neck. After this, both bride and groom walk around the fire and take seven rounds around it and with this all the quintessential and amazing Tamil wedding rituals come to an end.

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Silk Sarees to Embrace in Indian Weddings

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Giving silk sarees as a gift in Gujarati matrimony, Marathi matrimony, Kannada matrimony as well as many other matrimony occasions is quite an old tradition in India. Silk sarees are one such attire that instantly adds grace and charm to your look. It perfectly symbolizes the essence of pureness and depicts the rich tradition and culture of India.

Not many people know this, Silk is a protein fiber, which gets produced by the silkworm spinning around the cocoon. Then this filament is used to obtain the silk. The silk sarees are not only popular in India, but they are also embraced by people all over the world for its durability, shades, luster, comfort, rich texture as well as comfort. The best thing about Silk Sarees is that they are classy, elegant and fits in almost all occasions.

Below we are listing the some major varieties of silk that you should definitely add to your wardrobe or bridal trousseau:

1. Kancheepuram: Also widely known as Kancheevaram Saree, it is undoubtedly one of the finest silk in the world due to its double weft and warp. In Kancheepuram, silk threads dipped in liquid gold and silver are usually used to design gold motifs that further enhance the beauty as well as the value of the Saree. The exquisite, colorful silk threads are also used throughout the border in a typical tribal style.

2. Paithani: Paithani Sarees are made up of silk and detailed metallic patterns. The various different colors used in this Saree are usually produced by natural sources like flowers, leaves, and soil. Designed with motifs of peacock, lotus temples, Jain temples as well as designs inspired from Ajanta Caves, this is undoubtedly one of the sarees that you should definitely add to your wardrobe.

3. Patola: It is one of the finest forms of handloom in Gujarat and is widely used in Gujarati Matrimony. This saree is very carefully woven with precision and clarity. The Saree usually takes 5-6 months to complete, depending on the complexity of the design. The Saree usually gets embellished with  flaming colors, folk motifs and geometric designs.

4. Banarasi: Also known as Banarasi Brocade, Banarasi Sarees are made in Banaras, the holy city of India. Though the sarees are quite expensive, yet are quite popular worldwide. This saree usually gets decorated with brocaded ornament, gleaming zari, woven on a heavy silk. The delicate floral figures, architectural ornaments and figures designed with golden threads has a Persian ornament style.

5. Bandhini: This Saree has its origination in Gujarat and Rajasthan. Designed using the traditional hand tie dye method, it is also widely known as Bandhej. The beautiful and bright Rajasthan color palette perfectly compliments the monochrome landscapes of Rajasthan designed on it.

6. Ikkat: One of its kind, this saree from Orissa looks absolutely stunning due to its metallic finish, delightfully designed dyed yarn patterns and heavy gauge silk. Decorated with heavy thread work borders and pallus embossed with exquisite geometrical Ikkat patterning makes this saree the right pick to flaunt your looks in Indian matrimony.

Whether you are soon to be bride or someone who is looking for the perfect saree to embrace this wedding season, the above listed silk sarees are definitely the perfect pick for you. Try them yourself!

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