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Perfect wedding knot, A Writer Meets Geek

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Somaya Kashayap, is a qualified marketing expert, but she pursued her passion of writing and made it her career too. She is one among all those happy go lucky youngsters who want to live on their own terms and want a life partner who is understanding and adjusting. She is a profound writer and enthusiastic about things in life. She loves to explore, read, experiment and go crazy with friends. A girl full of life and dreams. As a writer she is ready to explore new things and always loves to meet new people. Her 9 to 6 job is a place where she can experiment and live her passion. She is happy with job, friends, the work she is doing and her lifestyle. One day her mom asked her to see a photograph that was lying on the table. She asked what is it for? Her mom replied, a marriage proposal for her. She was surprised because for her life is easy, simple, full of fun. Now, this is the turning point in her life. She doesn’t want to settle down with someone whom she hardly knows. She told her mother that she is not ready for this marriage and she doesn’t want to go for the traditional way of marriage where she is required to behave like a showpiece and puppet.

This time she managed to escape from this marriage proposal, but she is sure next time her mother will not listen to anything. After two weeks, she once again came up with another proposal and forced her to see the photo of that guy. But, she was firm on her decision saying that she doesn’t want to be like a puppet of someone’s hand. Her mother asked, is there anyone in her life? She said, no there is no one, but for her this is not the right approach to find a life partner and settle down with someone who is unknown to her.

Next day, she discussed this with her office colleague Kavita. She suggested her to register with any good and genuine matrimonial site. Somaya recalled that once she got a promotional mail from Lovevivah.com, a matrimonial site which ensures Aadhaar verification of profiles for higher trust level. She registered on Lovevivah.com. Her friend also told her about the site. She found registration simple and easy. She completed all the verification process. That night she logged in again to explore the site and search the profiles. There she found a profile meeting her partner preferences. She decided to contact that guy. His name was Raghav Nair, a guy from Kerala. She viewed his profile and images and sent him an invite. Next day, she received a notification indicating that Raghav accepted her invite.

She decided to send a chat message to Raghav through site. He did not respond for next three days and she thought that he is not interested. But, fourth day, she received an offline chat from Raghav stating that he was out of town for some seminar and was bit busy. She was happy with his response because he also seemed interested in her profile. Now, her journey to find a perfect partner began on a positive note. They chatted for almost two months and later decided to meet.

Somaya asked him for a good place which would be convenient for both as both were working in Gurgaon only. They decided to meet in a nearby restaurant on Friday evening, as last day of the week is bit relieved from office stress with no hurry to reach home on time.. She waited for him for almost 30 minutes, but Raghav did not reach. She decided to make a call to him to know his whereabouts. The moment she picked up the call, Raghav said, Hi Somaya. She was happy to see him because he was exactly same as his pictures. He was really simple and down to earth. He was looking like a typical geek, messy clothes, unorganized and a laptop in his hands. After talking with him for 10 minutes, she found him interesting and intelligent as well. But one thing she realized in the first meeting that he is an introvert and a typical geek, who loves to spend most of his time with gizmos and technology. For Somaya her work is a 9 to 6 job and if she is not writing something, then she must be reading something. But, for Raghav, his job is not restricted to hours and timing. He is working more than 10 hours every day and even on Sundays as well if required. But, there are other things which made her realize that he is very compatible for her.

Even Raghav was a bit nervous, because this was the first time when he met some girl and that too for marriage, a very serious relationship. Another thing which was bothering him was that he didn’t tell anyone about this meeting, not even his family and friends. He did not want to create any ho-halla for that. After meeting Somaya, he was also happy because he found her simple, sweet, down-to-earth and happy go lucky person.

After reaching home, she told about him to her mother and asked her to talk to his parents. He too discussed the same with his parents. His parents were not very sure about the match because they were from Kerala and Somaya was from UP. They have different caste, traditions and way of living. But, after listening to the views of their parents they decided to take some time to know each other well to reach to next level.

They continued talking to each-other for next few months. Every passing day, they got this strong feeling that they have many things in common, which makes them a perfect match to complement each-other. Once again, they asked their parents to meet at least once and then only take the decision. Their parents agreed to meet. It was a tough call for both the families, but still they agreed to do it for the sake of finding a perfect partner for their kids, which every parent wants to.

Somaya and Raghav’s family reached the venue on time and both the families were feeling bit awkward as their kids arranged the meeting for them. But, once they started the conversation, both families found each other easy going and simple. They decided to take this meeting to next level by fixing their marriage. They called the Pandit ji for matching their kundali’s, as Raghav’s family believed in it a lot. Pandit ji told them about the auspicious dates in the month of December, January and March. They agreed to the date of December, for their marriage. This was one of the most memorable days for both of them. They never thought that a simple registration with a matrimonial site could help them meet their perfect life-partner. Though they had different lifestyle, thought process, profession and culture,but nothing matters if you know what you want in life. For Somaya and Raghav, the process of searching a life partner was made easy by Lovevivah.com. They were able to search a partner on their own terms without any compromise.

Somaya is very happy with Raghav.  She believes that registering with Lovevivah was the right decision. She is happy because she was not required to go through the typical process of meeting different people and behaving like a puppet and facing rejections. She is happy because she was not required to make undesired changes in her lifestyle and professional life because she knew Raghav was also in an industry where he was required to put extra efforts and time to achieve professional goals. So, a writer meets geek through our portal, what’s your search story?

LoveVivah.com Malayalam matrimony site provides grooms and brides profiles for wedding. Find your Aadhaar verified matchmaking partner.

Ask Some Important Questions Before Getting Serious in Relationship

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When you are thinking too serious about someone special in your life, you start making a lot of plans about your future. But, it is important to think before things became really hot between you two. You must have shared many thoughts and dream with him/her, but it is equally important to know his/her views and thoughts on the same before you take the next step in life. It is important to know and check that you are on the same page and you are thinking alike. Is he/she also feeling the same what you are feeling for him/her? Therefore, it becomes more important to ask a few important questions to understand what he/she feels about you and your special relationship.

What are his/her future plans?: You should always ask this question to that someone special before you create your own fairy tale with him/her. Ask what he/she thinks about you? What are his/her future plans with you? It is important to know what he/she feels about you and keeping your future in mind as future couple. If he/she thinks that you two should remain as good friends as you are today, then you should hold your emotions back and move on.

Is he/she is ready for commitment: This is another big question in front of those who are in a relationship. You love to be with each-other. You love to spend more time together, but you don’t want to make any commitment or promises in relationship. You are happy with your open relationship where you have fewer expectations and liabilities towards each-other.

What is cheating for you?: This is another important question to ask him/her before you became serious in the relationship. What he/she thinks about cheating and what will be their reaction and something similar he/she will face in the future? For some people online intimacy or chatting with someone is acceptable, but some people will count it as cheating. Therefore, it becomes more important to know how he/she will react if something similar happens in the future.

Do you mind to accept this relationship publicly?  Ask him/her that whether he/she would mind to discuss about your relationship with anyone. There are many people who don’t like to discuss about their relationship with anyone else. There are many people who don’t want to make their relationship public and always want to keep it secret.

Is he/she ready to face any worse situation for you?: Making commitment is one thing and taking a strong stand for your commitment is another thing. Is he/she ready to stand for your relationship if things go south in the future? Is he/she ready to face anything for survival of your relationship? If he/she also feels equally strong about this relationship or he/she is ready to stand by you in all the circumstances, then you need not to worry about this relationship and its future.

Is there is something which you should know?: This is another important thing which you should consider before taking a next step in your relationship. Ask is there something which you should know before getting serious about this relationship. Is there something which you should know before taking this relationship to next level, be it about his/her past, family, any other past relationship or something which might affect your future?

LoveVivah.com Rajput matrimony website provides grooms and brides profiles for wedding. Search your Aadhaar verified matchmaking partner.

Do You Bother About Inter-Caste Marriage?

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Marriage in India is considered as one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family you always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. We are ok with your love marriage, but not with inter-caste love marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

The younger generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage.

Rashmi Soni, 28 years, Senior Creative Designer, MNC, Gurgaon said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.

In another conversation with Investment Banker, Anurag Singh, 30 years, shared with us that he too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if that girl is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For him caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.

Lakhshita Tonk, 27 years, working as Financial Analyst with a financial firm in Hyderabad, said that she likes someone in her office and planning to get married soon. He is from a different caste and she mentioned that if there is no problem in working someone from a different community. You can be good friends if you are from different caste why you can’t marry someone from a different caste. She mentioned that understanding and compatibility has nothing to do with caste. This is just a norm which we all follow to get the societal acceptance to our relationship.

Dinesh Garg, 26 years, Senior Risk Management Analyst, CA firm Pune, said that he is working in Pune with a CA firm and earning good. He mentioned that he will not bother much about the caste of his life partner if he finds someone compatible and a perfect match. He wants someone who will be understanding and supportive. He wants someone who understands his professional liabilities and mature enough to handle situation at her own. So, caste is not the main criteria for marriage, but a better match with higher understanding is preferred.

We, also discussed the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

Rajat Jha, 54 years, PWD officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. It will be difficult for her to adjust with new rituals and new things in life. We love to do thing the way we see them from out childhood. It is difficult to follow new rituals and get adjusted. Therefore, he doesn’t want to search someone from a different caste.

Kuldeep Nair, 58 years, Banker is also not convinced with the idea of finding a match for his son/daughter in different caste. He said that it might be it will take some time to find a good match or a perfect match within the community, but it is not difficult. He further mentioned that we are Pandit, we follow certain rituals and traditions which are different from other communities. I don’t want that my daughter or daughter-in-law will follow some different rituals. It will create problem and make life more complicated for the member to get adjusted with new styles and traditions. He further added, if you get married in a different caste you feel like that you are from a different planet and have nothing to say, rather just to follow everything blindly.

Santoshi Mathur, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. She said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, she also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.

Why you should do inter-caste marriage? Why you should not do inter-caste marriage?
Caste is not the problem in any marriage Social acceptance is lower
You will learn new customs and rituals Lower chances of finding a better match for other kids within community
You feel that now you are part of two different societies Adjustment issues in accepting and learning new customs and  rituals
You feel more connected Cultural differences
You start respecting other customs and make you more mature People still consider it as stigma

 

LoveVivah.com Rajput matrimony portal gives grooms and brides profiles for wedding. Search your Aadhaar verified matchmaking partner.

Appreciate Your Husband to Strengthen Your Relationship

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The relationship of husband and wife is built over trust and love. It is one of the most important and integral part of married life. Apart from love and appreciation, you also require a lot of things to get going and enjoy a happy relationship. Appreciating your husband doesn’t mean that you are buttering him or you have some hidden desires because of that you are praising. But, true appreciation with pure feelings is very important to show your love and to strengthen your relationship with husband. We all love words of appreciation and similar thing exist in our marriage as well. Your husband also expects word of appreciation from you to feel great. Here, we are sharing some tips to appreciate your husband and strengthen your relationship.

Appreciate his efforts: If he is doing something for you out of love or because he is worried for you. It is important to appreciate his efforts. If he is good with something like collecting something, or he is very organized or something which you think that you must acknowledge, so appreciate his efforts.

Appreciate his taste: We all have some special qualities and your husband must be having something special. If his fashion sense is outstanding and he is good with it, then don’t forget to mention it or appreciate it. If he is too foodie and loves to explore and experiment with food, or loves to explore new places, then appreciate him and enjoy his company.

Show your trust: No relationship can survive in the absence of trust and faith. Always show your trust and faith in him. When you discuss anything with him or he asked you to take some important decision because he thinks it is good for your family, then show your trust in his decision. While taking important decisions ask for his opinion and views. Take his help and show him that you believe in him.

Praise him for his decision-making ability: When he makes some important decisions like financial decision, professional decision or something else, respect his decision skills. In such situation where his decisions helped you to sail through bad time, don’t praise his decision-making skills. Show your trust in his right decisions.

Show him respect: Respecting your partner is very important. Respecting your partner doesn’t mean that you never say anything or put your opinion. Showing respect to your partner means you respect and love him for what he is. Make him feel that he is your hero and he is perfect for you. He must feel special and great for being what he is.

Don’t forget to compliment: If he is looking good, then don’t forget to tell him that he is looking handsome or great in your own ways. Complimenting your partner will help in strengthening your love with your partner.

Compliment his patience: For instance, if he is visiting some showroom with you to buy something and he is being patient with it then respects his patience. He will be more than receptive when your next request comes later on. Appreciating him and complimenting his effort will make him feel that he holds some special place in your heart and life.

LoveVivah.com Agarwal matrimony portal gives profiles of grooms and brides for wedding. Find your life partner with Aadhaar verified matchmakings.

Want To Stay Happy After Marriage? Accept Your Partner’s Flaws

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We all want to enjoy a happy and blissful marriage. All of us enter into this blissful relationship with the hope that everything is really fair and shiny. Once your honeymoon is over, you land into the reality of the marriage, where you both return to your workplaces with extended responsibilities of home. You also face the new responsibility of sparing some extra time for each-other. In such stiff situation, there are chances that your spouse may not have it all what you expected. You are two different personalities and your thought process and attitude towards life is also different. So, in such a new environment when you find it hard to maintain balance, the trick to stay happy is finding, something which is common between you. Here are some tricks to make your happy marriage.

Accept each-other honestly: In this relationship, it is important that you stay happy and accept your spouse honestly. A relationship which is based on mutual understanding and trust can make your life journey easy. There comes a time when you and your spouse don’t agree over something and you both are firm on your decisions. Always remember that you and your spouse have some flaws and you both are not perfect. Find a midway and accept each-other with not only the good side of your spouse, but with flaws as well.

Don’t put conditions on your love: Conditional love is something when you love your spouse when your requirements or wishes are fulfilled. But, such kind of love is not love, but materialistic expectations from your spouse. This kind of love will lead to marital troubles.  Therefore, don’t put conditions on your love to enjoy the blissful married life.

Don’t try to change your spouse: This is one thing which most of us keep trying in our married life. Or at times you make it agenda of your life to bring changes in your spouse. Your spouse is an individual with different thought process and personality. If you try to force your ideas on your spouse, you will surely face a negative response or might be very strong reaction. Therefore, always keep this in mind that you are there to make things better not to make things worse.

Appreciate the positive side: You should always appreciate the positive side of your spouse. There must be something which is unique and different in your spouse. Instead of looking at the flaws, focus on the positive side of your spouse. Don’t forget to compliment your spouse for the good things.

Don’t pay attention to gossip: It might be you are listening to a lot of things about your spouse or his/her family. But to stay happy in a relationship, it is important to have trust on your life partner. Ignore the gossips, you and your spouse are a team and you should not participate in such conversations.

Accept responsibility: Avoiding or escaping from your responsibilities can lead to arguments and frustration in a marriage. Therefore, it is important that you bear your responsibility well. Always remember that you two are a team and you have to work together as a team to make things work. Being married doesn’t mean that only you or spouse is responsible to bear all the responsibilities. Accept each-other and always be a helping hand for your spouse.

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