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5 Things to avoid while in courtship period

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Courtship period refers to the period between the wedding finalization and the wedding day. This period basically gives you some time to know each other better. Not just an opportunity for the couple to know each other, but it is also a good time for families to meet up and understand each other’s expectations and their tastes. Interestingly, this period is also the most sensitive period when both the parties need to be really careful about what they do and say.

There are a few things to be kept in mind to avoid any unpleasant situations.

Don’t kill personal space

Though there is a need to spend time together to understand each other better but do identify and stick to that thin line between spending time together and giving personal space. Do not suffocate the other person nor let anyone them suffocate you. Allow them their personal space and do not just jump into their life cutting them off from the rest of the world. Understand and respect ones privacy needs and wait till he/she opens up on their own.

Don’t build exceptionally high expectations

Setting up high expectations and hopes in the beginning often results in disappointments and disagreements at a later stage. Don’t make unreasonable promises, which you might not be able to commit to later. Be honest about yourself and about all the facets of your life so as to build a strong foundation to your relationship and do not engage in fake commitments to make your partner happy with the relationship for the time being. This can land you in huge trouble post marriage.

Leave the past behind

It’s a good idea to be transparent about past from both ends but don’t bring the past in the present to an extent that it becomes a reason for discomfort for either of you. Don’t be judgemental about the other person based on his/her past, and don’t draw conclusions or make assumptions. Do understand the sensitivity of this period and be a support to each other without apprehensions.

Be unconditional in your relationship

A relationship built on conditions is not a healthy one. The list of conditions will keep on piling up with the passage of time and so will pile up the burden on the relationship. Let your partner live a life of their own. Do guide and support when required and offer your suggestions without being dominant. Encourage a condition free relationship and take practical decisions by engaging in healthy discussions.

Don’t Pretend

Reflect your genuine self to your prospective life-partner. Make sure your prospective partner gets to know the best and the worst sides of your personality. And they accept you for what you are. Don’t hide things from each other, discuss about each other’s likes and dislikes and mould your relationship beautifully so that your partner feels comfortable in discussing important things with you and confiding in you.

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How to Start a Great Married Life

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The way foundation works for a building, likewise is the role of initial years in laying a strong base for a happy and successful married life. The way you treat each other, things that you do and expectations you set, is what that will set the scene for the rest of the years. These initial years can be best used to focus on each other as a priority before the other priorities appear in your life in the form of kids, career planning and more. Materialistic stuffs are good to have and of course do add to your happiness, but they cannot assure a happy and successful married life. There is much more as an ingredient to successful marriage:

Love & commitment: Not just a mere feeling of affection, but a strong commitment to stand by in all ups and downs of life is what defines the true love in a marriage. Commitment is easily adhered to when things are going smooth, but the real test happens in the time of trials.

Faithfulness: A subset of commitment, being faithful means committing to that one person wholly, from body, mind, heart and soul. Even offering moments of emotional intimacy to another person, somewhere it’s a sacrifice on faithfulness.

Transparency: Be an open book to your partner. Hiding stuffs or moulding things in front of your partner will create hitches that will grow with the passing time. Your partner should be the one person you could confide in, irrespective of the situation.

Modesty: No one is perfect. Every individual and every relationship has some weak areas. The key is to accept them and work to build on them. Accept you weak points and identify the areas where your partner is stronger. This will help you stay humble. Try to strengthen as a couple rather than as individuals.

Patience & Forgiveness: Since no individual is perfect, patience and forgiveness always form a critical part of a marriage relationship. Be tolerant to your partner even if things are not working out your way. Successful life-partners learn to show endless patience and forgiveness to their other half. Do not hold to past offences from your partner, rather forgive him/her and to keep your relationship free of any such burdens.

Time Investment: Time has always been of prime significance in any relationship. No relationship has ever worked or will work in deficiency of time. Moreover, not the quantity but the quality of time you spend together is what matters. Relationship with spouse is the most intimate and deep and hence requires more time than any other relationship. It’s a nice practice to set aside sometime each day for just two of you. A date night once a while can be an add-on.

Communication: Communicate as much as possible to make your marriage successful. Discuss about kids, your work schedules, grocery list, utility bills and whatever that comes to your mind. But don’t just stop there; also express your hopes, dreams, fears, and concerns. Discuss whatever that comes to your mind under the earth. It will help you two get closer and bond stronger for the years to come.

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10 Things to Look For While Choosing Your Life Partner

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Choosing the right partner is an art form.  We are living in a time where broken relationships and divorce rates are at its highest so picking the right person may seem quite daunting. Look for these 10 things while finding your perfect match:

1. Let go of the tiny details.

Look for a person who has qualities that will help build a solid foundation of a good relationship: honesty, kindness, empathy and reliability.  Qualities such as sense of humor, good dancer, etc. are nice to have but in reality they aren’t necessary for you to be in a happy relationship.

2. You can be yourself around her/him: It may sound clichéd but having a partner who you can be your complete clumsy, crazy self with, without any judgment is a wonderful feeling.  Your relationship is your safe place where you can be 100% comfortable in, without having to put any kind of mask on.

3. Be clear about what is accepted and what isn’t: Do not put up with any situation that does not align with your personal values as you are blocking yourself from meeting the right person. Be clear about what your deal breakers are and don’t wait for something to change that obviously won’t.

4. You want to live similar lives: You may not think much about similar lifestyles, but it is a crucial aspect to keep in your mind. You should be on the same page when it comes to details like how many kids you’d want, if you’d want to stay put or keep travelling etc. Plenty of free matrimonial sites let you put in your preferences to filter out potential matches.

5. Drama doesn’t equate to love: If your relationships seem like an emotional roller coaster, that isn’t love! The average good relationship isn’t entertaining enough like they show in movies.

6. Are you settling or compromising?

There is a huge difference between the two, as the former leaves you feeling cheated by life. Do not let yourself settle for any less than you deserve by signing up to marriage websites that won’t let you be disappointed.

7. Give the most unlikely pick a chance as well

Meet someone and give them a chance, even if they aren’t your ‘type’. The attraction grows the more you get to know someone and that’s the case, especially in an Indian marriage. Arranged marriages work in India because you give people a chance and fall in love with them in the process.

8. Get rid of your checklist

Your extensive list with traits of the ideal partner has to go! Don’t let your checklist make you miss out on finding a great match. Focus more on how the other person makes you feel instead of making sure his qualities fit your list.

9. Don’t let fear decide for you

Don’t choose a partner just because you’re scared about ending up alone. Don’t let your fear choose an Indian bride for marriage who you aren’t sure of completely. It’s better to wait than make a hasty decision.

10. Have fun!

The most underrated tip is to pick someone who you can have fun with. Life is a difficult road with quite a few speed bumps. It’s best to choose someone who will hold your hand through it all and laugh with you.

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Vidaai Ceremony: An Important Ritual in Indian Wedding

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Indian weddings are known for their lavish arrangements and different rituals. You can’t imagine a single wedding without loads of rituals and big celebrations. The day of wedding is filled with different ceremonies and wedding rituals, where family and friends come together to wish the couple for their happy married life. Most of the family members and even the bride and groom are also busy in performing various rituals. The memories of wedding are sweet and remain for forever. But, vidaai ritual is one such ceremony, which has mixed emotions like a mix of joy and sorrow. Let’s take a look at some important aspects of vidaai ceremony.

Vidaai ceremony symbolizes the final stage of wedding where the bride’s parent bid farewell to their daughter.

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It again symbolizes the beginning of her new life where she has to maintain a balance between her new life and old life.

Bride beginning of her new life

 

Now she steps out from the comfort zone of her parent’s house and get ready to take the responsibilities of her new family.

Bride steps out parent’s home

 

The girl throws back the handful of rice and coins three times before leaving her parent’s home. This act symbolizes that as she wishes that per parent’s house always remain prosperous.

Bride throws back handful of rice

 

After the bride’s parents give her daughter’s hand to their son-in-law, it symbolizes that he will take care of her and always be there to support her and guide her throughout the life.

As final ritual of the vidaai ceremony brothers and cousins of bride pushes the car from behind-as a ritual bespeaks them wising her luck and pushing them towards the joy and prosperity in life.

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No More Big, Fat Weddings-No More Extravaganza, Lok Sabha Asks To Cap On Guests

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A recent bill placed in the Lok Sabha seeks to put a limit on the number of guests to be invited and different cuisines and dishes to be served in wedding to check ‘ show of wealth’. They also ask for a contribution towards marriages of poor girls from those who will spend more than Rs. 5 lakhs in wedding.

According to the bill introduced by the Congress MP Ranjeet Ranjan, if any family spends more than Rs. 5 lakhs on a wedding, it has to contribute 10 per cent of the amount on marriage of the girls from poor families.

This Marriages (Compulsory Registration and Prevention of Wasteful Expenditure) Bill, 2016, may be taken up as private member’s bill in the upcoming Lok Sabha session.

Rajneet told that the main objective of introducing this bill is to prohibit extravagant and wasteful expenditure on marriages and to enforce simpler solemnization.

She further added, “Great importance should be assigned to the solemnization of marriage between two individuals. But unfortunately, these days a tendency of celebrating marriages with pomp and show and spending lavishly growing in the country.”

“These days, marriages are more about showing off your wealth and as a result, poor families are under tremendous social pressure to spend more. This is needed to be checked as it is not good for society at large.”

She also mentioned that “if any family intends to spend more than Rs 5 lakh towards expenditure on marriage, such family shall declare the amount proposed to be spent in advance to the appropriate government and contribute 10 per cent of such amount in a welfare fund which shall be established by the appropriate government to assist the poor and Below Poverty Line families for the marriage of their daughters.”

The bill says that once this proposed legislation comes into force, all marriages shall be registered within 60 days of the solemnization. It also requested government to fix an upper cap for guests and relatives and number of dishes to be served and the same criteria will be implemented on the reception held thereafter as it may help in minimizing the wastage of food items in the wedding.

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