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5 Things to avoid while in courtship period

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Courtship period refers to the period between the wedding finalization and the wedding day. This period basically gives you some time to know each other better. Not just an opportunity for the couple to know each other, but it is also a good time for families to meet up and understand each other’s expectations and their tastes. Interestingly, this period is also the most sensitive period when both the parties need to be really careful about what they do and say.

There are a few things to be kept in mind to avoid any unpleasant situations.

Don’t kill personal space

Though there is a need to spend time together to understand each other better but do identify and stick to that thin line between spending time together and giving personal space. Do not suffocate the other person nor let anyone them suffocate you. Allow them their personal space and do not just jump into their life cutting them off from the rest of the world. Understand and respect ones privacy needs and wait till he/she opens up on their own.

Don’t build exceptionally high expectations

Setting up high expectations and hopes in the beginning often results in disappointments and disagreements at a later stage. Don’t make unreasonable promises, which you might not be able to commit to later. Be honest about yourself and about all the facets of your life so as to build a strong foundation to your relationship and do not engage in fake commitments to make your partner happy with the relationship for the time being. This can land you in huge trouble post marriage.

Leave the past behind

It’s a good idea to be transparent about past from both ends but don’t bring the past in the present to an extent that it becomes a reason for discomfort for either of you. Don’t be judgemental about the other person based on his/her past, and don’t draw conclusions or make assumptions. Do understand the sensitivity of this period and be a support to each other without apprehensions.

Be unconditional in your relationship

A relationship built on conditions is not a healthy one. The list of conditions will keep on piling up with the passage of time and so will pile up the burden on the relationship. Let your partner live a life of their own. Do guide and support when required and offer your suggestions without being dominant. Encourage a condition free relationship and take practical decisions by engaging in healthy discussions.

Don’t Pretend

Reflect your genuine self to your prospective life-partner. Make sure your prospective partner gets to know the best and the worst sides of your personality. And they accept you for what you are. Don’t hide things from each other, discuss about each other’s likes and dislikes and mould your relationship beautifully so that your partner feels comfortable in discussing important things with you and confiding in you.

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What is the perfect time to get married?

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In a typical Indian family, the parental pressure for marriage starts to build up as soon as a girl is out of college and the boy has managed to grab a job. Not denying that the parents would have their own valid reasons to get their children hooked in a marital relationship as early as they can, but there are certain facts that determine the success of the relationship. Sadly, but not all marriages are successful and there can be multiple factors that impact the success quotient in marriage. The right timing being one of the crucial factors, though there can be many others too.

There are various schools of thought sharing different opinions on the perfect time to get married. As per one study, getting married at a very young age, when you are just out of your teens, poses a little more risk to your relationship. That is for a simple reason that the couple has not yet reached a maturity level to handle the fragilities of marital relationship. Initial attractions might be good enough to make butterflies run through your stomach, but the sincerity to nurture the relationship is somewhere missing in the whole picture.

Another theory says that people in their 30s or 40s who have already spent a significant span of time alone, at their own will and terms, have difficulties in adjusting with a new person in their life and accept a new unknown family as their own. This holds more true to women, as the level of adjustment post marriage is more at women’s end when compared to men. Though it does not defies the applicability of this on both men and women.

That leaves people with a short range of time believed to be the perfect time for marriage, starting form about mid-twenties to thirty and close. It makes sense to start a lifelong relationship with someone in this age range, as at this age people are old enough to understand if they really get along with someone or are just blinded by hormones. They have somehow settled in career and have already made few significant life choices and taken on some responsibilities, making them prepared for taking up a accountability for their married life. And they may be financially stable enough to be able to contemplate supporting someone should the need arise.

All this said, still it depends on an individual’s perception on marriage and the way he/she would want to lead the life. A perfect answer to “What is the perfect time to get married?” is – when YOU find YOUR PERFECT MATCH and you feel you are ready to take up the responsibility of marriage. The best thing you can do is to honor a great match when you’re lucky enough to find one. An year or two here or there would not make much a difference, but all that matters is the reflection of love and respect for each other, compatibility in terms of values and what you both want to achieve as individuals as well as a couple.

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12 Signs you know you’ve found your Perfect Match

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Marriages are made in heaven, they say, but love is grown and cherished on this planet. Love happens while we are busy making other plans. In a spur of moments, our life changes and we experience something blissful, something pure, and something selfless. Even love comes with its signs and symptoms, check for yourself if you are in the barometer or not.

1. When he/she understands you without your explanations
Sometimes even when words fail, facial expressions give it away. The person you intend to spend your life with should trust you and to make you understand that this relationship work wonders. Your search for the perfect match would definitely end at the matrimonial sites over the Internet. 

2. When he/she is the first person you think of every morning and every night
Those soft words, cuddles, and long talks day and night tickle your love buds, causing you fall for the person harder. No morning or night feel complete without them or their presence.

3. When you don’t hide any secrets
Your every minor intricate detail would be shared with your better half just so they don’t miss out on any part of your life. Where every minute thing is shared, love blossoms making the two grow closer to each other.

4. When you share your personal space willingly
You find no need to separate your space with your loved one as you consider him/her as a part of your life. Your inner sanctum includes your love as well, making your picture complete and perfect.

5. When you are respected by him/her
Your lifestyle, thoughts, and views are keenly observed and accepted by your perfect match. You find easy to talk your mind without being judged. For those still on their search of a perfect match, go to the Indian Matrimonial sites and end your search.

6. When your decisions matter to him/her
Those smallest words uttered by you are comprehended, thought about, and analyzed to be implemented. You are treated as an equal by appreciating your decisions, even on trivial issues.

7. When he/she does the things they dislike, only for you
Your choices matter to him/her and even if they don’t like or love it, they try it to see you happy. All the weird things are done just to see you smile. Find those alike, yet different people on the matrimonial sites.

8. When he/she ask for your day
Even after a rough day, he/she ask for your schedule and mood of the day and do everything possible thing to lighten it up.

9. When little sacrifices don’t matter for some quality time
Your favorite movie is in theatres and your better half doesn’t like watching movies, then you prefer time spent not your indulgences. And same from the other side.

10. When he/she takes small efforts to make you smile
Your days of turmoil and uneasiness are not spent alone, you always have unwavering support from the other end. He/she tries every possible thing to make you feel good about yourself as he/she cannot see you sad. The same goes for the other half.

11. When he/she makes you feel special
No specific occasion is required for him/her to make you feel wanted. They make the most of every moment to let you enjoy this beautiful life in a simple yet lovely way. Search your special one online through the best matrimonial sites. You never know you might the right Indian bride or groom for yourself.

12. When he/she says sorry irrespective of anyone’s fault
They apologize for the betterment of the relationship and for its proper functioning. They never seek to contemplate the wrongs of their relationships, they maintain a healthy balance amidst the chaos.

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Fears that surround couples before marriage

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For any young girl or boy in marriageable age, the word “marriage” is sure to shower a beam of excitement. It is worth a mention here that this excitement is most of the times accompanied by an unexplained fear. The family, surroundings, social circle, individual state, personality and many more factors club together to craft an opinion about marriage and related extents. A positive environment develops an optimistic view about marriage whereas negative environment or some undesirable experiences develop a pessimistic view about marriage leading to fear factor.

The common fears that usually haunt a person before getting married revolve around either of the below:

Fear of unacceptance

Two strangers who have not even known each other till a few days back and now they are proceeding with a lifelong commitment to stand by each other in all ups and downs of life. The fear of your partner accepting you with all your good and not so good qualities is quite justified. Not only this, but there is another layer of acceptance that matters – acceptance by in-laws, which is again a big concern of fear.

Fear of partner cheating on you

Even when couples get to spend time with each other during the courtship period, still there is a probability for either of them not disclosing or revealing all the instances from their past. Any previous crush or affair that might have been a serious one or has a tendency to bloom into a serious one, might not be discussed openly. Such fears do haunt a soon to be married person.

Fear of marriage failure

Failure in marriage for any reasons whatsoever is the most devastating thing that can ever happen to a couple. Even when everything is going as per your expectations, still there remains an undefined fear of unexpected that can mar your happiness.

Fear of emulating marriage of a known family member (distance, fights, missing love & respect)

Being a witness to any adverse marital relationship in the known social circle is confirmed to act as a seedling to the fear of your marriage being an emulation of theirs. Though each couple is unique and every marriage is distinct from the rest, still the mind hovers around speculating a resemblance with others and giving rise to futile fear.

And the fear of the unknown (What will marriage be like? How will things shape up after marriage? and what not)

As a basic human tendency, we always tend to fear about what’s not known to us. Yes, the Fear of Unknown. For a person tying the nuptial bond, there is a whole lot of new world that’s about to open up post marriage. The new world, which is unique to every couple and no one can give you a clue about how things will shape up for you post marriage. Its like you need to jump in deep waters to taste it.

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Top 5 Destinations for an Ideal Honeymoon

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No matter whether you are married or about to get married, choosing a perfect honeymoon destination is quite a challenging task for both bride and groom. Be it a Hindu matrimony or Christian matrimony, a custom of going on a honeymoon is common among people of all religion and background. As we all know, matrimony  adds a lot of stress to your life and planning your honeymoon while so many other things going around can be difficult.

So to help you find out some good destinations, below we are listing some perfect international places to go on your honeymoon after marriage:

Hawaii: Hawaii is undoubtedly one of the top honeymoon destinations due to its amazing attributes that makes the exotic Hawaii so perfect. Also, the various romantic beaches and lip-smacking Hawaiian cuisine set the perfect honeymoon atmosphere. It is also home to some incredible islands that include Maui Island, Kauai Island, Oahu Island, Lanai Molokai and many others.

Greece: Not only famous among art and history lovers, Greece is one of the perfect holiday getaways for newlyweds too. The amazing architectural buildings, theatre, sculptures as well as mouth-watering cuisines make this place perfect to spend some ideal time with your loved ones.

Mauritius: Also known as heaven on earth, Mauritius is another popular honeymoon destination. The crystal clear water, tranquil beaches, balmy weather and exquisite landscapes attract thousands of honeymooners and globetrotters all around the world. If nature attracts you and your partner, then Mauritius is definitely a place that you must go on a honeymoon.

Bali: A tropical paradise, Bali in Indonesia is a perfect place to spend some gala time with your better half. The natural surroundings and greenery of this place will leave you spellbound. Filled with adventure, Bali is absolutely an amazing place. Visiting this island will also help you come close to the culture and tradition of Indonesia at its best. You can also enjoy a romantic breakfast with your partner witnessing an active volcano.

Paris: An eternal city of love, Paris in France is a place that you must go if you are looking for a Bollywood style honeymoon. This city offers you a perfect ambiance to help you enjoy a classic romance with your partner. This place will also help you explore the best chocolate, food and cheese and amazing red wine to set the right mood. You can also learn to do the Tango with your partner at the amphitheater by the Seine.

Maldives:  If you want to spend some time in luxury close to the nature, then Maldives is a place where you should go to some quality time with your partner. Also, don’t forget to dive deep into the water to explore the exotic coral reefs. Surfing in the sapphire water in the Indian Ocean will definitely help you both bring some great memories home. You can also spend some relaxing time enjoying spa therapy to burn all the stress of the wedding.

So next time you plan your honeymoon, don’t forget to consider all these above-listed destinations to create some amazing memories for the lifetime.

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