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What is the perfect time to get married?

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In a typical Indian family, the parental pressure for marriage starts to build up as soon as a girl is out of college and the boy has managed to grab a job. Not denying that the parents would have their own valid reasons to get their children hooked in a marital relationship as early as they can, but there are certain facts that determine the success of the relationship. Sadly, but not all marriages are successful and there can be multiple factors that impact the success quotient in marriage. The right timing being one of the crucial factors, though there can be many others too.

There are various schools of thought sharing different opinions on the perfect time to get married. As per one study, getting married at a very young age, when you are just out of your teens, poses a little more risk to your relationship. That is for a simple reason that the couple has not yet reached a maturity level to handle the fragilities of marital relationship. Initial attractions might be good enough to make butterflies run through your stomach, but the sincerity to nurture the relationship is somewhere missing in the whole picture.

Another theory says that people in their 30s or 40s who have already spent a significant span of time alone, at their own will and terms, have difficulties in adjusting with a new person in their life and accept a new unknown family as their own. This holds more true to women, as the level of adjustment post marriage is more at women’s end when compared to men. Though it does not defies the applicability of this on both men and women.

That leaves people with a short range of time believed to be the perfect time for marriage, starting form about mid-twenties to thirty and close. It makes sense to start a lifelong relationship with someone in this age range, as at this age people are old enough to understand if they really get along with someone or are just blinded by hormones. They have somehow settled in career and have already made few significant life choices and taken on some responsibilities, making them prepared for taking up a accountability for their married life. And they may be financially stable enough to be able to contemplate supporting someone should the need arise.

All this said, still it depends on an individual’s perception on marriage and the way he/she would want to lead the life. A perfect answer to “What is the perfect time to get married?” is – when YOU find YOUR PERFECT MATCH and you feel you are ready to take up the responsibility of marriage. The best thing you can do is to honor a great match when you’re lucky enough to find one. An year or two here or there would not make much a difference, but all that matters is the reflection of love and respect for each other, compatibility in terms of values and what you both want to achieve as individuals as well as a couple.

Why do NRI prefer Indian brides?

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The trends on the Matrimonial sites and elsewhere indicates that Indian NRI bachelor mostly looks for the Indian brides for marriage. Although, they may have many foreign girlfriends abroad, but they prefer only Indian girls when it comes to marriage. Why is it so? Well, there is no direct answer, but the major reason remains entwined in the psychology and sociology of the born NRI men. A thorough research might help you find out some unexplored reasons, but here I am enlisting a few major reasons.

1. Cultural Inclination

A man is often separated from his family for earning or getting a good life, but he remains attached to his hometown and culture. Culture is something that a person cannot easily forget or adopt. Accepting a new culture takes a lot of time. Even if one accepts the culture, he internally vies for the old cultural values and instincts with which he was once tied. Marrying an Indian girl who shares the similar cultural values makes him internally satisfied and happy. Marriage is all about accepting and understanding each other. Cultural similarity makes the bonding more strong.

 2. Ease of return:

Some NRI men prefer  Indian bride for marriage to safe-lock their chances of return to India. Yes, this is true. Some NRI men live abroad with their hearts in their own country. Although, the chances of their return to the mainland are feeble, but then also they desire to come back some day and stay there. It may be that, they are unsure about when they will return, but their heart strongly pounds with the thought of return. To increase their chances of returning, they prefer to marry an Indian girl. The reason being, if they ever wish to leave this country, their spouse will be on equal terms with them and agree to accompany them.

3. Need for a stable family:

Cultural effects, upbringing manner, etc. have a greater impact on men born in India. Even the years of separation cannot erase these impacts fully. The family set up of Indian families is far different from foreign families. NRI men strongly feel that no other girl than that born in India can ever understand his proper family set up, or even if the other girl can, she will not be able to mold according to their family style. And to some extent this is also true. Adjusting in Indian families with outspoken relatives is not an easy task. So they want a wife who is trained to adjust in Indian families of this kind.

4. Male superiority

In India, until now, men enjoy a privileged position over women in many areas. NRI groom brought up in India, grows up watching his dad taking all the important decisions of the house, while supporting his mother. He has seen his mother catering the Desi delicacies to the family and wants the similar privilege for him also. To get all this for himself, marrying an Indian girl seems to him as a sure shot solution. It is also one of the major reasons for why NRI groom prefers an Indian girl for marriage.

5. Financial Gain

If an NRI groom is looking for some kind of a financial gain, naturally he gets it better by his in-laws living in India as some Indians believe in giving expensive gifts and money to their son-in-law and daughter on wedding. Marrying an Indian girl also satisfies the ego of any egoistic man. An NRI groom is usually considered as a VIP in the family for his greatest merit of being an NRI.

The reasons for an NRI to marry an Indian girl are logical as well as critical. It may be that he had loved a girl back in India and want her as his spouse, or he is in deep love with the Indian cultural values, or he wants dowry. Whatever be the reason, remember that, in the end only the good intentions win. The end-result of any marriage should be a happy and life filled with love and we wish the same for all.