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How to Resolve Fights in a Marriage

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Very few couples may admit to have conflicts but having conflicts in marriage is normal. People who commit to spending life together may have different opinions about different things. No matter how much a couple is in love, they cannot see eye to eye on everything.

When two individuals come together with a commitment to spend life together, somewhere down the line, many small things tend to cause friction. Two people can have a different attitude and personalities. Add in some oddities, pour in some expectations, sprinkle some day to day errands, and it can go all kinds of crazy.

Conflicts are not totally unhealthy, but how well they are being resolved can determine the health of your marriage. Fights, big or small, can be avoided or concluded in a very healthy way. Sometimes conflicts tend to get unavoidable, but what comes handy is your approach towards conflict solving.

Communication is key

First thing first; every matrimony has an ultimate need – Communication.

As long as you are communicating, you always have a better chance to avoid a conflict. It is highly important that we get past our selfishness and arguments and pave the way for some productive dialogue. Take out some time in your daily routine, where you can just talk and listen.

Listen to what your partner is going through and do not shy away from expressing what you feel. It makes your partner feel that they are heard and understood. Most important part of communication is analyzing your partners need. Determine the right time to talk about your hidden needs.

Give your partner and equal chance to talk about things and never jump to conclusions. If something is not right, stop smoldering and stop expecting that your partner will just guess your problems. Communicate!

Take a Time-Out 

Conflicts tend to raise your emotional quotient, and in the heat of the moment, most of the couples start the trash-Talk. Soothe yourself and just breathe! When emotions are heightened, distance yourself from any sort of emotional or mental abuse.

You can keep calm and resume the discussion after you regain your peace of mind. Always remember; “The goal should be to have a conversation in such a way that you can see eye to eye and have another conversation tomorrow.

Empathize & Accept

Understand that your partner may have different needs. In case of a conflict, accept the blame if you have wronged the other. Accepting your fault and saying sorry will make your marriage rock solid. Take responsibly for your actions. If your partner apologized for something, do not keep mentioning the same thing over and over again. Never give cold-shoulder to your partner. This increases marital stress, and things may not be the same after a while even if you try.

Create a Win-Win & Resolve

Partners should make genuine efforts to take care of each other’s needs. Once a conflict arises to try to come to a solution which helps both. Take each other into consideration and remember that you love the other person.

You must understand that matrimony  involves the union of two individuals who were in different spheres of lives. When these spheres collide, the result is inevitable friction. So be patient, loving and understanding, and the thing that you are finally left with is a beautiful loving married life!

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Interesting Facts about Telugu Weddings

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Telugu people belong to the land of Andhra Pradesh or Telangana. Telugu  matrimony follows the traditional Hindu wedding rituals.

Some interesting facts about Telugu Weddings, for this matrimonial site

1) Traditionally, these ceremonies lasted for sixteen days. These days, the ceremony lasts for just two or more days;

2) Matrimonial customs are performed depending on the caste of the Indian bride and Indian groom;

3) The families of the Indian bride and Indian groom personally go to guests’ houses and invite them with ‘kumkum’ (colorful, red powder);

4) In one of the pre-matrimony ritual, the Indian groom takes a holy bath, (known as ‘Snatakam’), few hours before the wedding. This bath marks his ‘graduation’ from bachelorhood to the householder. After the holy bath, the groom wears a silver thread on his body;

5) In another pre-matrimony ritual (known as ‘Kashi Yatra’), the groom declares celibacy and expresses his intent to go to ‘Kashi’ (also known as Varanasi) to pursue higher studies. The Indian bride’s brother stops the Indian groom, pleads him to reconsider his decision, requests him to marry his sister and become a householder. This ritual is light-hearted, involving camaraderie between the Indian groom and his future brother-in-law. The Indian groom, of course, agrees to marry his Indian bride in the end!

6) Telugu matrimony usually takes place towards midnight;

7) On the morning of the matrimony, the Indian groom performs the ‘Ganesha Puja.’ The Indian bride performs the ‘Gauri Puja.’ During this time, a ritual known as ‘Pravara’ is performed. In this ritual, the bride’s clan (‘gotram’) is changed from her father’s to her would-be husband’s;

8) Traditionally, the Indian groom would ride an elephant to the ceremony (‘GajaArohana’-arrival on an elephant), but this practice is declining with the passage of time;

9) During the matrimonial ceremony of ‘Kanyadaan’ (or giving away the bride), the Indian bride is brought to the wedding venue (‘mandap’) by her maternal uncle in a bamboo basket;

10) The Indian bride’s parents wash the Indian groom’s feet (who for matrimony, is considered the incarnation of Lord Vishnu).

11) After ‘Kanyadan,’ the bride is accompanied by ten married women. Six of them carrying plates of sacred rice (a mixture of rice and turmeric powder), while the remaining four carry small lit lamps. Rice for abundance and lit lamps for light.

12) There is a curtain that separates the Indian bride and the Indian groom, who are not allowed to look at one another;

13) Between recitations of wedding hymns, the bride and the groom place on each other’s forehead a paste of jaggery and cumin seeds, symbolizing the eternity and strength of the relationship;

14) The Indian bride and the Indian groom then pour the sacred rice on each other’s head, while cupping their hands to hold the rice as the priest recites wedding hymns.

15) The Indian groom adorns the feet of his bride with silver toe rings. He bends down to slip these rings on her toes, thus claiming her for himself.

16) Both the bride and the groom are shown double stars representing the union of Arundhati and Sage Vasista, who epitomize the perfect couple.

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How to Become a Man of Her Dreams?

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The common notion of a dream man is someone with a fully ripped six packs body, a Greek God like face, a deep voice, etc. And that is how all men want to be because they think this is what women want. The question to be asked is, “Is that really what women look for in an  Indian Groom?” The honest answer would be no.

Most women are romantics, they might not show it outside, but on the inside, they crave a partner who is as romantically inclined as them. A partner who knows what intimacy is. A partner who can understand their emotions and respond to it accordingly. The problem is, the society does not paint guys who have all the above qualities as dream men, and popular media has helped propagate the false notion even further. After all, when was the last time you saw an Indian movie where the hero wasn’t sporting six pack and could do all those so-called ‘manly’ things such as beating up a bunch of guys effortlessly? Think hard, and you will still struggle to come up with a name.

It is not just the movies; even advertisements have done a lot of damage. One of the most popular deodorant brands in the country sells its products by showing sturdy half-naked men wooing girls with their physique. You cannot change the way the society or the media represents the dream man, but you can change yourself by following a few simple guidelines before you start browsing matrimonial sites  for the perfect bride.

Tell her ‘I love you.’

“I love you” is perhaps the most powerful short sentence that you can say to anyone. It is like a tender kiss; it gives happiness to both the person who says it and the one who hears. So, tell her you love her every time you get an opportunity to do so but do not just stop with that, show her you mean what you say. She is never going to get tired of hearing those three words if you do so.

Be there for her and the marriage

A wedding may get over once you put a ring on her finger or tie the knot around her neck, but it is the beginning of your marriage. A matrimony requires much time and effort for it to be successful. You are allowed to have your own personal time, but it should not be at the cost of the time you spend with her. Be there for all her ups and downs, the big ones and the small ones, after all that is what a marriage is about.

You reap what you sow.

Sow the seeds of respect, care, kind words, intimacy, thoughtfulness and acts of tenderness. Basically, just give her a chance to be in a meaningful relationship that keeps her happy and content. A woman wants nothing more from her man. And if you do all that, you will most definitely be the man of her dreams.

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The Vibrant Customs and Traditions in Kannada Matrimony

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As we all know, the state of Karnataka has a population of people coming from all religion and background. Though the majority of the population of Karnataka is of Hindus, you will also find many Muslims, Christians, Buddhists, and Jain settled there. Unlike other Hindu Matrimony or Christian Matrimony,  the Kannada Matrimony rituals are an easy and a blissful event, which are usually vibrant.

The Kannada Matrimony Ceremony for the Hindu caste is a simple affair. The wedding rituals and customs of Kannada community are usually simple and modest. The major objective is to carry the rituals as per their culture. Below we are listing some quintessential Kannada weeding rituals:

Some Important Pre-wedding Ceremonies in Kannada Matrimony

There are many Kannada wedding rituals, which usually begins days before the wedding. The customs are usually held at both the bride and groom’s place.

The pre-wedding rituals begin with Nischay Tamulam. In this ritual, a formal agreement takes place and the alliance gets fixed. After this, the family of the bride and groom organize an engagement ceremony, where both the bride and groom exchange rings. Gifts and sweets also get exchanged between the families.

Another interesting and fascinating pre-wedding ritual is Kashiyatra Tradition. In this tradition, the groom pretends and act like he will leave his family and will go to Kashi to become a Brahmachari. On seeing this, all the family members try to convince him to not leave home by luring him with worldly goods. The groom then cancels his plan to leave home and decides to marry a girl.

Wedding Rituals in Kannada Matrimony

The Kannada wedding takes place during the daytime.  The Mandap is decorated with fresh, colorful flowers as well as lights. The wedding rituals start with a ritual known as Var Pooja, where the bride’s father welcomes the groom and wash his feet. The bride then arrives in the Mandap and is made to sit next to the groom. The Kannada bride wears  Navari, which is the traditional wedding attire along with green bangles and jasmine flowers to adorn the hair. Whereas the Kannada groom wears Silk dhoti and Kurta.

The next important ritual is Kanyadaan ritual, where the bride’s father takes her hand and places it on to the groom’s hand. Then he puts coconut and betel leaves on their hands followed by sprinkling holy water. This custom is also known as Dhare Herdu tradition. The groom then ties Mangalsutra around the bride’s neck and takes seven rounds around the holy fire also called yagna. This important ritual is called Saptapadi. This wedding ritual solemnizes the wedding, as after this ritual, the priest declares the bride and groom as man and wife.

After the wedding rites, the food gets served to all the guests and family members. Another interesting thing about Kannada marriage is that unlike other Indian matrimony, the food is served in a traditional style on banana leaves with guests sitting on the floor. After this comes the time of the Grihapravesh, where the bride enters the groom’s house and  is welcomed by her mother-in-law. The groom also gives a new name to the bride and beautifully writes it on a plate filled with rice using a finger ring.

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Silk Sarees to Embrace in Indian Weddings

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Giving silk sarees as a gift in Gujarati matrimony, Marathi matrimony, Kannada matrimony as well as many other matrimony occasions is quite an old tradition in India. Silk sarees are one such attire that instantly adds grace and charm to your look. It perfectly symbolizes the essence of pureness and depicts the rich tradition and culture of India.

Not many people know this, Silk is a protein fiber, which gets produced by the silkworm spinning around the cocoon. Then this filament is used to obtain the silk. The silk sarees are not only popular in India, but they are also embraced by people all over the world for its durability, shades, luster, comfort, rich texture as well as comfort. The best thing about Silk Sarees is that they are classy, elegant and fits in almost all occasions.

Below we are listing the some major varieties of silk that you should definitely add to your wardrobe or bridal trousseau:

1. Kancheepuram: Also widely known as Kancheevaram Saree, it is undoubtedly one of the finest silk in the world due to its double weft and warp. In Kancheepuram, silk threads dipped in liquid gold and silver are usually used to design gold motifs that further enhance the beauty as well as the value of the Saree. The exquisite, colorful silk threads are also used throughout the border in a typical tribal style.

2. Paithani: Paithani Sarees are made up of silk and detailed metallic patterns. The various different colors used in this Saree are usually produced by natural sources like flowers, leaves, and soil. Designed with motifs of peacock, lotus temples, Jain temples as well as designs inspired from Ajanta Caves, this is undoubtedly one of the sarees that you should definitely add to your wardrobe.

3. Patola: It is one of the finest forms of handloom in Gujarat and is widely used in Gujarati Matrimony. This saree is very carefully woven with precision and clarity. The Saree usually takes 5-6 months to complete, depending on the complexity of the design. The Saree usually gets embellished with  flaming colors, folk motifs and geometric designs.

4. Banarasi: Also known as Banarasi Brocade, Banarasi Sarees are made in Banaras, the holy city of India. Though the sarees are quite expensive, yet are quite popular worldwide. This saree usually gets decorated with brocaded ornament, gleaming zari, woven on a heavy silk. The delicate floral figures, architectural ornaments and figures designed with golden threads has a Persian ornament style.

5. Bandhini: This Saree has its origination in Gujarat and Rajasthan. Designed using the traditional hand tie dye method, it is also widely known as Bandhej. The beautiful and bright Rajasthan color palette perfectly compliments the monochrome landscapes of Rajasthan designed on it.

6. Ikkat: One of its kind, this saree from Orissa looks absolutely stunning due to its metallic finish, delightfully designed dyed yarn patterns and heavy gauge silk. Decorated with heavy thread work borders and pallus embossed with exquisite geometrical Ikkat patterning makes this saree the right pick to flaunt your looks in Indian matrimony.

Whether you are soon to be bride or someone who is looking for the perfect saree to embrace this wedding season, the above listed silk sarees are definitely the perfect pick for you. Try them yourself!

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