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Building a positive bond with in-laws

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Once you enter the holy bond of matrimony, life stands ahead, staring at you with multiple responsibilities. You and your partner are in a life-long commitment to taking care of each other. The fact that responsibilities differ throughout the countries does not change the fact that responsibilities exist in the first place. Indian bride and groom enter wedlock with families. This means that the bride has a new family to cater and so does the groom. Every marriage starts a new web of relationships, and it takes the effort to start this new life on a good note.

The in-laws become a serious part of your marriage, and they are a source of constant encouragement. They act as a guide during the first phase of married life and also make sure that you are well-adjusted. They try to create a niche for the newlywed so that they do not find themselves out of the place. We cannot live in isolation, and the same applies to a marriage. A happy family is a promising one, and every newlywed needs to make an effort to nurture it. This process is a time consuming one, but fruitful at the same time.

Spend time together
Your bond with your husband’s or wives’ family will add to the strength of your marriage. Make time to sit together for lunch or dinner or else just go out for a picnic. This will help you know your in-laws better

Be honest
This is the key to all good relationships. Never sugar coat things and let them know whether you are comfortable with a particular thing or not. Convey your likings and disliking but be considerate when you do so.

Know and understand
Since it’s a start of a new relationship, so take your time to adjust. Try knowing the people around. It is obvious that everyone will not match your beliefs or values, but instead of making any fuss about it, try to accommodate the differences. Do understand that people cannot be judged and categorized as right or wrong, they are just different than you and may be right in their own way.

Be considerate
Your nature can set you miles apart. If someone wronged you, forgive and if you wronged someone, apologize. This is the key to sustain lifelong relationships. Try forgetting ‘not so good’ things and move on. Clinging to any dispute or disagreement can lead to disruption of your peace.

The point is you are into a lifelong commitment and have vowed to take care of your partner and his /her loved ones. He/she is related to a family which now you are a part of. For a healthy marriage, it is compulsory to value and respect your in-laws. A positive bond with your spouse’s family can help pave the way for matrimonial bliss. At the end of the day, having another family is a beautiful thing, and it deserves the love at your end. This additional bond will help keep away the frustration and bestow positivity to your day to day life.

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3 Exotic Offbeat Honeymoon Destinations Within India

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When it comes to discovering and exploring new lands, or choosing exotic destinations for the honeymoon, most newlyweds jump to searching for foreign destinations and often overlook what’s right in our backyard, closer to home, comparatively way inexpensive and yet equally or more exotic.

Here are three exotics, offbeat and yet, as compared to foreign locations, way more pocket-friendly destinations for your honeymoon plans and to kick-start your matrimonial adventures with finesse.

Kasauli, Himachal Pradesh

Typically, all newlyweds desire to disconnect from the world and disappear into the solitude and solace of exclusive togetherness. For this, what is a better destination than an exotic British India built a town in the distant foothills of the Himalayas?

Kasauli is a small town in Himachal Pradesh and sits tall and proud at a decent height of 1927 meters.  What makes Kasauli exotic and quaint is the fact that it was built by the British, during their reign of pomp and glory and Kasauli till date retains that flavor of British India.

Though adventure tourists come here for trekking or adventure tourism, Kasauli is never a crowded, noisy destination buzzing with endless options of activities. Most urban tourists find Kasauli not too busy and engaging and let it pass. For precisely this reason, it has become a honeymoon paradise, an exotic locale ideal for matrimonial solitude and unhindered space for newlyweds.

Chail, Himachal Pradesh

Chail is the same quaint and quiet hill station that Bhupinder Singh, the famous Maharaja of Patiala from the late 19th century British India used to love to reside in as his summer palace retreat. It is famous for housing the world’s highest cricket ground, situated at an astounding height of 7500 ft.

Chail is a discreet offbeat destination ideal for newlyweds seeking matrimonial bliss and passion. Besides the lush green scenic beauty of the Himalayan foothill, this place has the beautiful Sadhalpur Lake. On the lake, you’ll find a much popular Lake Restaurant, serving local oven fresh snacks and tea.

The other attraction that really makes Chail exotic for honeymooners is the Chail Palace Hotel. It is an exotic and richly adorned heritage hotel, filled with plush vintage furniture and palatial interiors, richly reminiscent of the royal era and the British period. A quiet and serene stay at this classic beauty of a hotel will leave any newlywed Indian bride and groom feel transported to a distant and dreamy paradise of romance.

Aldona, Portuguese Goa

Now, before you frown hearing an overrated name such as Goa, please know that the Portuguese experience of Goa is completely different and superior to the typical beach and bar hopping Goan getaways. If you really want to have a colonial and exotic experience of a bygone plush and palatial era, you might consider booking your honeymoon stay in an ancestral Goan-Portuguese house, with an original Portuguese Goan family.

There is one specific Goan-Portuguese home in Aldona, belonging to the Amarals.  The house goes back to the pre-British era, being at least 500 years old. The Amaral family have opened up the home for exotic homestay options for offbeat travelers, and newlyweds are sure to relish this unique experience.

Staying in one of their archaic, vintage vast rooms, overlooking the scenic beauty of Aldona, while devouring the delicacies prepared by the home cook, your matrimonial bliss, and conjugal initiation are sure to feel satiated like a Portuguese royal couple from the bygone era.

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The True Significance of Honeymoon

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The word ‘Honeymoon’ has its etymology in the Old English phrase “hony moone.”. In Old English, Hony meant honey, and it was used to indicate the “special phase of loving sweetness and tenderness and conjugal pleasure lived out by newly weds. The other word Moone, in contrast, indicated the matter of fact fleeting nature and a waning phase of that same sweetness. As you can tell, this word didn’t have a positive connotation, as we have about it today. It was almost a phrase of cynical warning about the sweet marital love soon waning like the Moon.

However, instead of focusing on this aspect of the word, let’s perhaps look at another ancient and a more optimistic context of this word’s origin.

Around the 5th century, most ancient societies used the lunar cycle as their calendar time. Back then, it was a mandatory custom for newly weds to drink customary Mead (a honey based alcoholic drink that was said to have aphrodisiac elements) during the first moon right after their marriage, in order to help enhance libido in the couple.

A few more centuries down the timeline, the concept of honeymoon was again much different from the present day custom where couples go away just by themselves. In the 1900s, in Great  Britain, newly weds would go on a post matrimony tour, visiting relatives and  friends who had not been able to attend the wedding. It was in fact a special time to forge new bonds – between the newly married themselves, and also with their friends and families.

Although culturally often honeymoon is seen as a solitary sexually passionate getaway for newly weds,  the real essence of the period called “honeymoon” is not so much about conjugal passion, rather about striking a fresh friendship, understanding and mutual compassion!  As two entirely different people join each other’s lives, every couple most definitely need time to understand each other more, adjust with their new roles (as husband and wife from boyfriend and girlfriend / lovers ) , with the other person’s minute details and habits that, regardless of how long one has been dating, can only be understood and learnt while staying with them under the same roof. This needs ample time, single minded dedication, effort and space. Therefore, to simply allow fostering of this newly readjusted friendship and bond between the pairs, which becomes impossible when back on the daily household and workplace grind, the custom of honeymoon still serves as a vital and pivotal nuance.

Even in ancient India, right after the wedding NEVER came the proverbial passionate first night! According to Vedic tradition, the ceremony of Garbhadaan, offering one’s womb to the husband’s lineage (the first conjugal sexual act) was conducted only half a lunar cycle after the big day. This interim period was meant for the newly weds to strike a deeper friendship, understanding and genuine love for one another. Our ancient cultures understood that more than physical pleasure and attraction, what served as a solid foundation to matrimony was mutual understanding, friendliness and trust. And every couple was hence given ample time just after the matrimonial ceremonies to forge that bond first. Even today, this perhaps should be the Real essence of this exclusive time called Honeymoon that every newly wed is blessed to have – a time not just for passion running wild in wild exotic settings, but also a time of forging stronger bond and trust and intimacy.

So, what do you now think about honeymoon? We at LoveVivah love to bring you such meaningful information, because we are committed to help you find the most meaningful relationship if your life. We value matrimony as sacred and hence take utmost care to bring you our best listing of Indian Bride and groom from all over the country.

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How is love after marriage different than love before marriage?

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Every good relationship is typically based on love. Friends or relatives, no matter what the dynamics, we simply want people who we love. We have grown up listening to “Love gives meaning to life” mantra which is nothing less than a holy gospel. As life moves on with its twists and turns, love changes its guise, and this is how the tale of change ensues.

Love before marriage is usually an adventurous journey with limited responsibilities and possible heartbreak. The bond of matrimony  on the other hand ensures that you put in lots of efforts into numerous decisions for a natural progression towards love.

This does not mean that love before marriage lacks responsibilities or affection, it just means that it is a lot easier to walk away. There are numerous situations where the perspectives do not remain the same.

Arguments:

When you are in love with a person prior to the bond of matrimony, your outlook towards conflicts is altogether different. In this kind of scenario, many couples call to quit without trying hard. Even though marriages too are not immune from the breakups, but in this case, the moving away is quite a task.

Responsibilities:

Before marriage, couples share few though not many responsibilities. The decisions are unilateral sometimes, and no big planning is on the cards. On the other hand, a couple in marriage need to share responsibilities in terms of finance, planning, raising a family and so much more. In the latter case, love needs to be strong enough to bear the disputes and disagreements because, at the end of the day, you have to look eye to eye again.

Bonding with family:

Once a couple enters the bond of matrimony, two families get acquainted as one, and the couple has to take care of the web of relationships afresh. This kind of bonding is absent when marriage is not on the cards. Gradual adjustments with the new family and getting to know each other through thick and thin is part and parcel of marriage.

The future certainty:

The future is uncertain to all kinds of love. The difference between the case before marriage and after marriage is not being sure of planning the future together. Married couples plan about future events such a raising a family or investments and so much more.

The no-glamour scenario:

Many people will fail to admit, but love before marriage us way too glamorous. The all-day- all week dating and sweet nothings in text messages are a routine. After being married, partners see each other sleeping in huge baggy clothes, tangled hair and so much. The love after marriage is all about loving the partner for who he/she is deep inside.

Patience:

Matrimony dawns patience on husband and wife. They learn to go through annoying habits and spats because the commitment is way too big to let go. They gradually learn to get adapted to what their partner offers and try to invest more patiently in leading the marriage into something great.

Love remains as love itself,  no matter if you are married or not. It is just that marriage makes the goal clear and you move ahead in life having each other’s back. There is no other commitment bigger and noble than this one.

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How and Why Marriages in India are Overrated

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In India, marriages are highly overrated and one wonders why. Not only there’s an Utopian notion about how marriages are a must for one’s life to be complete and fulfilled, there’s also too much emphasis on the inexhaustible marriage ceremonies, rituals and traditions to be complied with.

Marriage a Must?

Most Indian parents expect the daughter to get married soon after she completes her education mandatorily. Though with time, the Indian bride’s Age for marriage has increased, yet for a woman to not have got into matrimony by the time she’s 30 till date raises eyebrows and questions and unsolicited advice. Because of this social age of marriage, in India, even a well-educated and financially independent but unmarried girl generally speaking becomes a reason of parents feeling the social pressure just to get her married and leave home. In India, whether a daughter is a doctor or a high profile corporate executive or a sports person, a married daughter is much preferred and treated as a “weight off the parent’s shoulders.”

For boys, again, there’s immense social and family pressure to get married, the moment he is well established and able to sustain a family financially. In some extreme cases, a man is married off even if he’s not independent, on the logic that marriage will henceforth make him wake up to his responsibilities.

Marriage equivocal to Happiness?

Marriages in India are thus overrated also because our society fails to reckon that marriage doesn’t necessarily make one happy. There are now increasing number of broken marriages, divorces, unhappy matrimonial lives, unhappy couple’s and practically null and void marriages simply alive on papers – all in the name of the overrated institution of marriage.

The Show, the Pomp, the Rituals

But even besides these factors, the wedding event itself is so highly overrated. In any typical Indian wedding, both sides of the allegiance spend nothing less than a few lakhs up to quite a few crores on every wedding.

Typically, most Indian families invite an endless number of family members, relatives, friends, and acquaintances to a wedding function. Lavish food items are prepared. Expensive gifts are exchanged. Days together, at times weeks, are passed away in elaborate pre-wedding and post-wedding ceremonies.

While earlier a nice and decent Banarasi or Kanjeevaram sari would suffice for the Indian bride and a good pair of suit or dhoti kurta for the Indian groom, nowadays it’s seemingly become a social statement and mandatory to go in for designer Lehengas and Sherwanis. The costlier they are, the grander the wedding is seen as. No wonder, the true essence of a matrimonial event has increasingly taken a back seat, while overrated Utopian notions about marriage and superficial traditions and wedding activities have taken up so much space.

We at LoveVivah love to see happy, healthy and joyous weddings. We not only are committed to bring you your perfect life partner, but also love to see the true essence of a matrimonial life fill your wedding day with happiness and joyful memories. That’s why we bring you India’s best and most eligible bride and groom profiles. We ensure that every profile on our matrimonial site is genuine, so that you, our cherished user gets a fully secure, safe experience and meet only the trusted candidates on LoveVivah.

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