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Why knowing your spouse’s likes and dislikes matter?

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Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it needs proper nurturing to sustain. Two people coming together to be joined for matrimony  does not guarantee what the future holds. A mixture of efforts, patience, care, respect, and compromises can sure go a long way. The responsibilities are huge including the finance, housekeeping or childcare and these responsibilities tend to make a couple exhausted.

This exhaustion can tend to fire things up and eventually from time to time; the couple might end up having scuffles and arguments. Although efforts can be made to keep a marriage healthy even after rigorous routines, one of the most important components of a healthy relationship is knowing your spouse throughout.

Make Time to Know Your Spouse
Understanding what he/she dislikes can have perks that one would not imagine. People need to consistently update what they know about the spouse after they have taken their wedding vows. Once you are in the matrimonial bliss, try looking into likes and dislikes of your partner.

Notice what gets the best out of them and what does not. Learning more and more about your partner requires communication as well as persistence, but the results are overwhelming. Looking at things from the perspective of your partner can ensure greater understanding and love.

Knowing your partner minimizes the frequency of disputes. Once you are acquainted with what he/she likes, it becomes easy to choose the course of action. Empathize often and knowing your partner better will provide you with a reasonable explanation for his /her actions.

Be There For Each Other, Understand Each Other!
In some marriages the partners are shy, and their tendency to communicate takes some time to accelerate. The important thing is to never jump the guns. Understand the reason behind the action, and you will not end up frustrated.

The best way to know things about your spouse is communication. Find time to ask questions and answer some. Listen with your whole heart while your spouse shares his/her perspective. This will help to make better decisions regarding your married life. Things will no more look complicated, and friction will be minimized.

The most important result that comes out of knowing what your spouse likes is that you will attain the highest level of understanding. This is not easy to come, but once you are able to reach there, your marriage will grow much stronger and healthy. There will be no scope for misunderstandings and there will one less stress in the routine life.

To Be Understood By Your Partner Is One of the Greatest Feelings in the World
There is more to knowing your spouse than to ask about the favorite color or food. But the fact remains same, Knowing is growing. You can make sure that you do not offend your partner or ignite a fight. You get to know more of a person that is supposed to accompany you through the life.

It makes the partner feel valued and understood. The marriage stays healthy leaving no room for suffocation or frustration. A well-understood partner in collaboration with a well-understanding partner makes the recipe for a perfect marriage and a long-lasting bond.

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How to Ensure Your Honeymoon Continues Throughout Your Life

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Can you make honeymoon period last forever?

Ah, well, if by honeymoon you strictly mean staying at faraway exotic destinations, crunching on strawberries and spending all day and night in conjugal bliss, then the answer to that question is simply – you can’t! But if by honeymoon you are talking about the freshness, the fervor, the Love and the passion between the couple, then it’s quite possible to maintain that intimacy and conjugal Bliss throughout your life. Of course, it will require mutual commitments and constant effort, but it is indeed achievable!

Friendship

Marriages are not founded on romantic love! Yes, you read that correctly. It’s not romantic love or sexual passion that keeps matrimonial  bliss ongoing for years, but simply the friendship couples share.

So, what do you usually do for and with a Best Friend?

1) You spend time with them.
2) You spend time with them chatting up, talking and listening, both!
3) You talk out any misunderstanding and not do the typical “matrimonial silent treatment”!
4) You create a space of confidentiality and trust with your best friend.

Couples having such secret language and codes of understanding and fun peculiarities tend to feel their bond remain fresh even after decades.

Real-ness and Fun

Most importantly, you have fun with your friend, AND without masks of pretenses. You must be the real you. The wacky you, the naughty you, the uninhibited you. Contrary to the orthodox hierarchical “the god in the husband and the somber subservient wife,” which inevitably kills the honeymoon phase pretty soon, keeping the dynamic Real and Free-flowing does great good to the conjugal pleasures.

Romancing a lover, not a spouse

Most people vouch that moment you tie the knot, the thrill of being the boyfriend or girlfriend, the passionate, romantic rebels suddenly start feeling like domesticated animals yoked together. This doesn’t happen if you continue to romance that passionate rebel in your lover and not some dutiful date night with a spouse. You treat them as your, again, Best Friend, and your lover even before as your legally wedded social whatever!

So, let’s do this again!

1) You spend time with your best friend and passionate lover.
2) You spend time with your passionate lover and best friend, both at home, but more so outdoors, going to interesting places and doing exciting things together.
3) You go on movie dates with your friend and lover.
4) You go on special outings meant just for you and your lover friend.
5) You arrange for surprise dates, passion getaways, pleasure trips just as before the wedding. And mind you, it’s NOT only the “boisterous and shameless” man’s responsibility. The Indian bride, even the Indian wife, needs to be unabashedly planning such initiatives.

Read Together, Create together

And if you’re going to object to that idea, unwittingly misquoting some “holy” scriptures about “nice, decent and holy Indian wives,” maybe doing some pleasure reading together as a couple, of books on matrimony and matrimonial obligations, belonging to ancient Indian traditions can clear your ideas.

1) What’s more interesting is this fun couple activity can also turn your reading together into passionate reading sessions. Imagine dutifully reading Vatsyayana (an ancient Indian philosopher) together as a couple! Your post-wedding honeymoon will not only get prolonged but most likely improve in passion and art and science of matrimonial bliss!
2) You can also regularly involve yourselves in joint sessions of creative activities – as simple as gardening, for instance. How does that help spruce up your prolonged honeymoon, you ask? OK, just close your eyes, try to see yourself in soil and mud, smelling of the earth, splashing water on glistening green leave, together! You get the point, we know! Couples who enjoy creative activities and hobbies together tend to find long-lasting interest and passion in each other, and this too keeps your honeymoon phase going stronger year after year.

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3 Exotic Offbeat Honeymoon Destinations Within India

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When it comes to discovering and exploring new lands, or choosing exotic destinations for the honeymoon, most newlyweds jump to searching for foreign destinations and often overlook what’s right in our backyard, closer to home, comparatively way inexpensive and yet equally or more exotic.

Here are three exotics, offbeat and yet, as compared to foreign locations, way more pocket-friendly destinations for your honeymoon plans and to kick-start your matrimonial adventures with finesse.

Kasauli, Himachal Pradesh

Typically, all newlyweds desire to disconnect from the world and disappear into the solitude and solace of exclusive togetherness. For this, what is a better destination than an exotic British India built a town in the distant foothills of the Himalayas?

Kasauli is a small town in Himachal Pradesh and sits tall and proud at a decent height of 1927 meters.  What makes Kasauli exotic and quaint is the fact that it was built by the British, during their reign of pomp and glory and Kasauli till date retains that flavor of British India.

Though adventure tourists come here for trekking or adventure tourism, Kasauli is never a crowded, noisy destination buzzing with endless options of activities. Most urban tourists find Kasauli not too busy and engaging and let it pass. For precisely this reason, it has become a honeymoon paradise, an exotic locale ideal for matrimonial solitude and unhindered space for newlyweds.

Chail, Himachal Pradesh

Chail is the same quaint and quiet hill station that Bhupinder Singh, the famous Maharaja of Patiala from the late 19th century British India used to love to reside in as his summer palace retreat. It is famous for housing the world’s highest cricket ground, situated at an astounding height of 7500 ft.

Chail is a discreet offbeat destination ideal for newlyweds seeking matrimonial bliss and passion. Besides the lush green scenic beauty of the Himalayan foothill, this place has the beautiful Sadhalpur Lake. On the lake, you’ll find a much popular Lake Restaurant, serving local oven fresh snacks and tea.

The other attraction that really makes Chail exotic for honeymooners is the Chail Palace Hotel. It is an exotic and richly adorned heritage hotel, filled with plush vintage furniture and palatial interiors, richly reminiscent of the royal era and the British period. A quiet and serene stay at this classic beauty of a hotel will leave any newlywed Indian bride and groom feel transported to a distant and dreamy paradise of romance.

Aldona, Portuguese Goa

Now, before you frown hearing an overrated name such as Goa, please know that the Portuguese experience of Goa is completely different and superior to the typical beach and bar hopping Goan getaways. If you really want to have a colonial and exotic experience of a bygone plush and palatial era, you might consider booking your honeymoon stay in an ancestral Goan-Portuguese house, with an original Portuguese Goan family.

There is one specific Goan-Portuguese home in Aldona, belonging to the Amarals.  The house goes back to the pre-British era, being at least 500 years old. The Amaral family have opened up the home for exotic homestay options for offbeat travelers, and newlyweds are sure to relish this unique experience.

Staying in one of their archaic, vintage vast rooms, overlooking the scenic beauty of Aldona, while devouring the delicacies prepared by the home cook, your matrimonial bliss, and conjugal initiation are sure to feel satiated like a Portuguese royal couple from the bygone era.

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The True Significance of Honeymoon

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The word ‘Honeymoon’ has its etymology in the Old English phrase “hony moone.”. In Old English, Hony meant honey, and it was used to indicate the “special phase of loving sweetness and tenderness and conjugal pleasure lived out by newly weds. The other word Moone, in contrast, indicated the matter of fact fleeting nature and a waning phase of that same sweetness. As you can tell, this word didn’t have a positive connotation, as we have about it today. It was almost a phrase of cynical warning about the sweet marital love soon waning like the Moon.

However, instead of focusing on this aspect of the word, let’s perhaps look at another ancient and a more optimistic context of this word’s origin.

Around the 5th century, most ancient societies used the lunar cycle as their calendar time. Back then, it was a mandatory custom for newly weds to drink customary Mead (a honey based alcoholic drink that was said to have aphrodisiac elements) during the first moon right after their marriage, in order to help enhance libido in the couple.

A few more centuries down the timeline, the concept of honeymoon was again much different from the present day custom where couples go away just by themselves. In the 1900s, in Great  Britain, newly weds would go on a post matrimony tour, visiting relatives and  friends who had not been able to attend the wedding. It was in fact a special time to forge new bonds – between the newly married themselves, and also with their friends and families.

Although culturally often honeymoon is seen as a solitary sexually passionate getaway for newly weds,  the real essence of the period called “honeymoon” is not so much about conjugal passion, rather about striking a fresh friendship, understanding and mutual compassion!  As two entirely different people join each other’s lives, every couple most definitely need time to understand each other more, adjust with their new roles (as husband and wife from boyfriend and girlfriend / lovers ) , with the other person’s minute details and habits that, regardless of how long one has been dating, can only be understood and learnt while staying with them under the same roof. This needs ample time, single minded dedication, effort and space. Therefore, to simply allow fostering of this newly readjusted friendship and bond between the pairs, which becomes impossible when back on the daily household and workplace grind, the custom of honeymoon still serves as a vital and pivotal nuance.

Even in ancient India, right after the wedding NEVER came the proverbial passionate first night! According to Vedic tradition, the ceremony of Garbhadaan, offering one’s womb to the husband’s lineage (the first conjugal sexual act) was conducted only half a lunar cycle after the big day. This interim period was meant for the newly weds to strike a deeper friendship, understanding and genuine love for one another. Our ancient cultures understood that more than physical pleasure and attraction, what served as a solid foundation to matrimony was mutual understanding, friendliness and trust. And every couple was hence given ample time just after the matrimonial ceremonies to forge that bond first. Even today, this perhaps should be the Real essence of this exclusive time called Honeymoon that every newly wed is blessed to have – a time not just for passion running wild in wild exotic settings, but also a time of forging stronger bond and trust and intimacy.

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How is love after marriage different than love before marriage?

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Every good relationship is typically based on love. Friends or relatives, no matter what the dynamics, we simply want people who we love. We have grown up listening to “Love gives meaning to life” mantra which is nothing less than a holy gospel. As life moves on with its twists and turns, love changes its guise, and this is how the tale of change ensues.

Love before marriage is usually an adventurous journey with limited responsibilities and possible heartbreak. The bond of matrimony  on the other hand ensures that you put in lots of efforts into numerous decisions for a natural progression towards love.

This does not mean that love before marriage lacks responsibilities or affection, it just means that it is a lot easier to walk away. There are numerous situations where the perspectives do not remain the same.

Arguments:

When you are in love with a person prior to the bond of matrimony, your outlook towards conflicts is altogether different. In this kind of scenario, many couples call to quit without trying hard. Even though marriages too are not immune from the breakups, but in this case, the moving away is quite a task.

Responsibilities:

Before marriage, couples share few though not many responsibilities. The decisions are unilateral sometimes, and no big planning is on the cards. On the other hand, a couple in marriage need to share responsibilities in terms of finance, planning, raising a family and so much more. In the latter case, love needs to be strong enough to bear the disputes and disagreements because, at the end of the day, you have to look eye to eye again.

Bonding with family:

Once a couple enters the bond of matrimony, two families get acquainted as one, and the couple has to take care of the web of relationships afresh. This kind of bonding is absent when marriage is not on the cards. Gradual adjustments with the new family and getting to know each other through thick and thin is part and parcel of marriage.

The future certainty:

The future is uncertain to all kinds of love. The difference between the case before marriage and after marriage is not being sure of planning the future together. Married couples plan about future events such a raising a family or investments and so much more.

The no-glamour scenario:

Many people will fail to admit, but love before marriage us way too glamorous. The all-day- all week dating and sweet nothings in text messages are a routine. After being married, partners see each other sleeping in huge baggy clothes, tangled hair and so much. The love after marriage is all about loving the partner for who he/she is deep inside.

Patience:

Matrimony dawns patience on husband and wife. They learn to go through annoying habits and spats because the commitment is way too big to let go. They gradually learn to get adapted to what their partner offers and try to invest more patiently in leading the marriage into something great.

Love remains as love itself,  no matter if you are married or not. It is just that marriage makes the goal clear and you move ahead in life having each other’s back. There is no other commitment bigger and noble than this one.

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