In a typical Indian family, the parental pressure for marriage starts to build up as soon as a girl is out of college and the boy has managed to grab a job. Not denying that the parents would have their own valid reasons to get their children hooked in a marital relationship as early as they can, but there are certain facts that determine the success of the relationship. Sadly, but not all marriages are successful and there can be multiple factors that impact the success quotient in marriage. The right timing being one of the crucial factors, though there can be many others too.
There are various schools of thought sharing different opinions on the perfect time to get married. As per one study, getting married at a very young age, when you are just out of your teens, poses a little more risk to your relationship. That is for a simple reason that the couple has not yet reached a maturity level to handle the fragilities of marital relationship. Initial attractions might be good enough to make butterflies run through your stomach, but the sincerity to nurture the relationship is somewhere missing in the whole picture.
Another theory says that people in their 30s or 40s who have already spent a significant span of time alone, at their own will and terms, have difficulties in adjusting with a new person in their life and accept a new unknown family as their own. This holds more true to women, as the level of adjustment post marriage is more at women’s end when compared to men. Though it does not defies the applicability of this on both men and women.
That leaves people with a short range of time believed to be the perfect time for marriage, starting form about mid-twenties to thirty and close. It makes sense to start a lifelong relationship with someone in this age range, as at this age people are old enough to understand if they really get along with someone or are just blinded by hormones. They have somehow settled in career and have already made few significant life choices and taken on some responsibilities, making them prepared for taking up a accountability for their married life. And they may be financially stable enough to be able to contemplate supporting someone should the need arise.
All this said, still it depends on an individual’s perception on marriage and the way he/she would want to lead the life. A perfect answer to “What is the perfect time to get married?” is – when YOU find YOUR PERFECT MATCH and you feel you are ready to take up the responsibility of marriage. The best thing you can do is to honor a great match when you’re lucky enough to find one. An year or two here or there would not make much a difference, but all that matters is the reflection of love and respect for each other, compatibility in terms of values and what you both want to achieve as individuals as well as a couple.
