Kayastha community generally belongs to the states of U.P, Madhya Pradesh and Delhi. The wedding rituals of this community are a little bit different from other communities. Kayastha wedding rituals are of full of excitement and life. The family of the Kayastha bride & groom fix the marriage. After finalize the bride/groom, the family members fix a marriage date, which is auspicious according to their birth chart.
Lagan Ceremony: Kayastha wedding ceremony starts with lagan. The family of bride and groom send a formal invitation in the form of a lagan patrika. The lagan patrika is sent along with a silver-covered coconut, betel nuts and gold-covered barley. Besides, the bride’s family also sends clothes for the groom and his family, sweets, dry fruits and fruits are some other necessary gifts which they generally send to his family as ritual. Everything if presented to groom after the Ganesh Puja.
Fixing the marriage date: After the lagan ceremony, all the male members of both families fix a marriage date suggested by an astrologer. They share the list of invitees to start the marriage arrangements.
Bhat Nyotna: Kayastha wedding celebration start with bhat nyotna. The ceremony is generally performed a day or two days before the marriage. The mother of the bride/groom visits her maternal home to invite her parents and family to come to her daughter/son’s marriage and give him/her blessings. After this, the invitations letter is distributed to all the relatives from the maternal side.
Haldi Kutai: The mother of the groom along with other ladies of the family performs this auspicious ritual. All the ladies accompany the mother of the groom in this ritual, wear their chunri, nath and tikka. They prepare a refined powder of turmeric and sing folk songs. This haldi is then sent to the bride’s family for ubtan.
Tilak Ceremony: The bride’s brother and other male members of the family visit the groom’s house for this ritual. This ritual signifies that the family of the bride has accepted the groom to wed their daughter. They offer various gifts like silverwares, groom’s clothes and clothes for his family, sweets, dry fruits and jewelries for the groom and his immediate family. Even they also present the wedding dress to the groom.
Mehendi ceremony: All the ladies of the bride’s family including the bride apply the mehendi on hands. Even the bride applies the mehendi on her hands and feet. The females in the groom’s family also apply mehendi on their hands. The groom also applies mehendi as shagun.
Mandapchadan: On the wedding day, the males of the groom set up a mandap in the house with hey roof made of four bamboo posts and ornamented with banana stumps and mango leaves. Five senior married males of the family establish the harish made out of wood, in the centre of the mandap. All the remaining rituals of the day will be held in the mandap till wedding.
Haldi ceremony: On this day, all the family members of the grooms family wear yellow clothes symbol of haldi. Even the mother of the groom and his mother wears yellow clothes. The haldi paste brought by the mother of the bride is applied on grooms face, hands and feet. This is done by the all married females of the family. Even the same ceremony is performed in the bride’s family as well.
Imli-ghutna: It is performed by the groom’s maternal uncle and aunt. This ceremony is conducted to ward away the bad omens and to tell groom to keep away from all vices.
Paricchavan: The mother of the groom just before the departure of the baraat performs this ritual. She does aarti of the groom to ward away all bad omens and put tilak on his forehead with her blessing for the new auspicious beginning.
Barat procession: The barat procession starts with visiting the nearby temple. All the male members of the family and a few females of the family participate in this procession. They start the procession for the wedding venue with all family members and baraties.