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Are People Nagging You to Get Married? Deal the Pressure Smartly

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If you are in a marriageable age and still single then for sure you must be feeling the pressure to get married and settle down. The pressure to get married is not limited to Hindu, Sikh or Jain or to some other community, but it real and visible across all the classes and caste. Irrespective of the facts like educational background, working status, gender or financial status, the pressure to get married is affecting the life of every youngster. It is not that the women in marriageable age are facing such pressure, but men are not even unaffected with it. However, we can’t change the mindset of people, but we can even try to make them understand the point of waiting for the right person not the right time. But, this is again a very tricky affair and there are chances that you will face reverse effects of the same. The best you can do is to devise some strategies to deal with this pressure without even making big fuss about it. Here, we are sharing some points to deal with the pressure to get married and enjoy your bachelorhood.

Be sure what you want: Before reaching to any point or conclusion, it is better to be sure what you want in your life. Are you happy with your present life? What are the reasons behind not getting married? Do you want to get married soon or not? What are your life partner preferences? What do you think about married life? If you know the answer of these questions and you know what exactly you want in life, then it is worth waiting for the right person. So, before accepting or rejecting some marriage proposal, it is better that you are 100% sure what you are doing and what you want in your life.

Be logical: When you say no to any proposal or ask your parents to give you some more time as you don’t want to get married, then be logical with your replies and approach. If you will give them lame excuses and tell them that you don’t want to get married because you are not ready for it, or your friends are still single. This is not very convincing point for your parents. So, if you do not want to get married right now, give them convincing logic.

Explain with patience: If you don’t want to get married now, explain it to your parents. If they are pressurizing you to get married soon and giving their own logics for getting married and you are in no mood to settle down now, have patience and explain them your point. Be clear about your thoughts and don’t get hyper or irritated while explaining your point to your parents or your friends because your anger might annoy them.

Be honest: It is important that you to remain honest in your thoughts and approach. Don’t beat around the bushes and talk about something irrelevant. If you are in a marriage relationship with someone and he/she is asking for some time to take the next step, told this to your parents why you need more time and be honest with them. If you want to focus more on your career right now and want to settle down financially before getting married, be clear about and make them understand your point. So, it is important to be honest in your approach.

Love marriage/arranged marriage: Are you sure you want to do love marriage or arranged marriage? Be sure what you want in life. If you are sure about that there is no one in your life and you want to do arranged marriage only, make it clear to your parents as well that you will go for arranged marriage only. There is no one in your life and you will tie the knot with their wishes. It will not create any confusion in their mind that you are postponing marriage because of other reasons.

Don’t feel friend’s pressure: This is another pressure which most of the youngster feel. At times, you feel so stressed because all your friends give you many reasons why you should tie the knot. They want you to enter into the married club because they all are married and you are single. If you are comfortable with your single friends, enjoy their company. Don’t stress yourself unnecessary.

Advantages of being single: If you want to wait take some more time to settle down, don’t worry about others and enjoy your bachelorhood. It is great to be single. No matter, you are 25years or 35 years and still single, there is no harm in it. There are a lot of things which you can experience and enjoy being single. Every phase of life has its own advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, finding the right partner is more important than getting married with wrong one. Enjoy your life to the fullest and have fun with friends and family.

Be open with ideas: This is another thing on which you should work upon. Be open with different ideas. If you are in a relationship and your boyfriend or girlfriend wants some time before meeting your parents or getting married, be open with it. Don’t force your partner to marry soon. If your fiancée/fiancé wants to postpone the marriage for a few months or a year then be open with that idea.

Communicate well: Communication is the key for any strong relationship. It is better to communicate well your thoughts and ideas with people. If you will not reply to their questions or don’t make your point clear why you don’t want to settle down now, it will further create confusion and irritate them. Therefore, communicate well about your thoughts and feeling, rather than avoiding conversation.

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Worried About Your Relationship with Sasu Maa? Follow These Simple Tips to Become Her Darling

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In our country, we believe that when you marry someone you just don’t marry the person only, but you marry with the family and even extended family as well. Generally, boys are close to their mothers and after marriage they have two special ladies in their life. The one he cares a lot and another one he loves most. But, the situation becomes complicated when the two start believing that he is ignoring them because of the other one. In most of the cases, the mother-in-law believes that her son is ignoring her because of his wife. This is when the whole problem starts. If you are about to enter into this special relationship or you are already facing the heat of arguments and issues with your mother-in-law, follow these simple tips to become her darling.

Try to know more about you: This is your first and most important step towards building the strong and happy relationship with your MIL (Mother-in-law). Make sure that you ask more about her liking, disliking, behavior, temperament and other important things from your fiancé or husband. It will help in understanding her behavior and attitude. Even you know in advance that what you should discuss with her or what not to discuss with her.

Plan shopping with her: This is one activity which is generally liked by all females. It will give you enough opportunity to get close to her and mingle with her. We know that we all love to go out for shopping with our bestie’s, but going out with her on shopping will help in building a strong relationship with her. Buy something for her of her choice and show that you care for her.

Take her advice: Whenever you stuck somewhere don’t hesitate to take her advice. She is a mother and moreover more experienced than you, if you think you need someone’s advice then you can ask her. She will not only like your move, but she will give your right suggestion as well. If you want to know more about your husband or fiancé then she is the right one to be contacted.

Discuss things with her: Don’t discuss or share things with her just for the sake of doing it. Rather, discuss and share things with her genuinely. She will surely love to get involved with you in different things. Always remember to discuss light or non-controversial topics with her. If you think that some topic will make her angry or she will not like it, then avoid discussing such topics with her.

Don’t do fake appreciation: We all know when you are appreciating genuinely or when you are faking it. If you think that she has genuinely done something great, don’t forget to appreciate her or thank her for that. But, if you are doing it for the sake of it or just pleasing her, then be aware she knows it very well that you are faking it. Don’t fake things by praising her all the time.

Share your feeling with her: If you are annoyed with something or something is bothering you, then don’t forget to share this with her. If you are not happy with her behavior or something else at home, share this openly. It will build the trust factor in your relationship. But, don’t forget to share your feeling in polite and constructive way. Argumenting or shouting will not solve the problem, rather complicate it further more. It is always better to share your things in a constructive way with your MIL.

Cook something special for her: This is something which most of the mother-in-law expect from their daughter-in-law. If you know what she likes or what she doesn’t, cook something special for her. All MIL expect their daughter-in-law to possess good cooking skills. Try to cook everything by your own, most of the MIL appreciate that their daughter-in-law handles the kitchen by her own.

Don’t brag about self: You are there in her family because she liked you and her son liked you. Don’t brag about yourself too much in front of her. Don’t tell her again and again that how much he loves you or what special he does for you because you are good or something similar. It might be she will not feel good about it, when you brag too much. So remain happy on your achievements and stay cool.

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6 Most Irritating Habits of Women Increasing Frustration of Their Husbands

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Marriage is a two-way communication and no marriage can survive without good bonding and healthy communication. Most of the time, we hear and read about how wives feel irritated or frustrated with their husband’s habits. But, have you ever realized how a man feels over the different habits his wife? How does he feel when she did something irritating? In our recent conversation with a few married men, we find that women too leave no stone unturned to irritate their counterparts. They do enjoy a lot of things and husbands work as fixers for their habits. Here, we are sharing some glimpse of our conversation with them and their personal experiences.

Bad driving sense: “Females are considered as bad drivers and my wife proves it again and again by hitting my car with something or other frequently”, Ramesh Shukla, Chandigarh, told this to us. He further added, “She has very bad driving sense and whenever she is supposed to park the car in parking, she surely hit the car. This irritates him a lot and most. You feel like not to give her the the key, still you have too.” This is one thing which irritates most of the males because they love their car and a single scratch on their favorite machine can make their heart sink.

Treating like a kid: You love being pampered, but not all the time. When your wife treats you like a kid all the time it irritates you most.  Sandeep Singh, Gurgaon, mentioned, “I know I don’t help her in many things at home. But, if she instructs me all the time what I should, what not, or what to wear and what to eat? It annoys me.” You feel being loved and care, but it doesn’t mean that your partner will tell you what you should and how you should it like we instruct our kids. This kind of behavior irritates many men.

Nagging and endless calls: You love when someone loves you and cares for you, but at the same time being over-concerned and bottling up things with a lot of love can be annoying. Anuj Yadav, Lucknow, told, “ My wife loves me so much, but at times this SO MUCH love irritates me like anything. If I don’t pick her call because I am busy in meeting, she will keep on calling till the time I don’t pick the call and tell her that will call you back.” He further added, “Every day she makes more than 20 calls to me to know my whereabouts and what I am doing.” This is really irritating and annoying for many males because they feel that their wives are not giving them enough space and nagging them by making endless calls.

Trail of questions: This is one of the most common habits of females and they ask you end number of questions in whole day. It makes many men angry because they got irritated with endless questions and counter questions. Yugant Rajput, Mumbai, said, “My wife asks me endless questions. First, she will ask a question and when you reply to that you will bombard me with other counter questions. This is our daily routine. In case, I miss answering something, then I have to face another ten questions on that.” This is really irritating and annoying for almost all men. If you too have same habit, work on this because it might be your man also got irritated with your trial-sessions.

Nothing is enough for them: Most of the men do feel that whatever they do for their lady love is not enough for them. Generally, wives criticize their husbands about so many small and big things. They hardly appreciate them for anything, whatever they do, they face criticism. Arun Nair, Hyderabad, said, “At times, I feel so frustrated because she is never happy with whatever I do. If I buy something for  her, rather than appreciating it, she will focus more on the price, quality, brand and 100 other things about it, to let me know that how I wasted my money.” Most of the wives forget to appreciate the efforts of their husbands and divert their focus on other things and annoyed them.

Not paying attention to advice: This is another common trait of females which annoy husband’s many times. Men liked to be consulted if you are going to do something important, but if you are ignoring them or their advice, then for sure you are raising their eyebrows. This will irritate him like anything. This will give him a sense that you don’t value him and his words. Ronak Mishra, Delhi, said, “Whatever I will advise or suggest to my wife she will do opposite to it. This irritates me like anything.” It is good to be independent and self-dependent, but listening to your husband’s advice will not harm you anyway.

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6 Most Annoying Habits of Your Husband That Drives You Crazy

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You must have heard this statement many a times that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Men and women are two different creatures with different thought process and habits. When you compare the habits of a husband and of a wife you will find a lot of differences in their habits and attitudes. Most of the men are lazy, want to lay back and enjoy a luxurious life where they are not supposed to do anything if they are at home. In general, most of the men expect their wives to be superwomen who will take care of each and everything at home. These habits at times become the reasons of daily clashes and arguments between the husband and wife. For all lazy buns and gorgeous beauties, we are here sharing some common habits of husbands that drive wives crazy.

Leaving wet towel on bed: This is very common habit.  Most of the wives must be noticing this every day and highlighted this many time not to put wet towel on bed. Generally, husbands don’t bother to keep their wet towels on the drying wires or roads. But, they just throw the towel either on bed or wherever they find place to keep it. They knew that their wife will surely keep it at proper place. But, this habit irked most of the wives and they really hate this habit. If you are among those husbands, then work on rectifying your habit.

Messy rooms: Most of the husbands are not bothered about the cleanliness of their room. They are least bothered to notice the unorganized table, messy bedsheet or untidy blankets. They are just happy to rest on their bed and watching their favorite match. This habit irritates all women. Most of the time either they keep things at place or trying to clean the floor and other thing. Messy room is a total no-no thing for a female and irritates them a lot.

Untidy toilets: Whenever you use the bathroom, you are least bothered to clean it up. Men generally leave bathroom dirty with muddy footprints, wet floor and unorganized shelves. They never bother that someone else will also use the same bathroom after them. Do you think that the bathroom gets clean itself? NO, your wife put lot of efforts in keeping this place hygienic and cleans it for everyone in the family. Next time, you use your bathroom, just ensure you are leaving it clean.

Unorganized wardrobe: While picking your favorite shirt from your wardrobe you mess all other clothes kept in the wardrobe. Most of the men generally unfold or shift their clothes from their original place to another to pick their favorite shirt or trouser and don’t bother to organize the things before closing the wardrobe. This is another habit which irritates most of the females. Generally, women try to fix everything and keep everything in place. Still, if you mess everything all the time whenever you pick anything from wardrobe, then try and work on your habit and keep your wardrobe clean because it belongs to you only.

Not picking up calls: It might be you are so busy with your meeting, office stuff or appointments and you were not in a situation to pick the call when she calls you up, but not making a call back is really sad. It might be she got stuck somewhere or she wants to tell something important, in that case you will disappoint her with your habit. There is nothing worse and irritating that waiting for someone’s call. So, if you tell her that you will call her back, then ensure that you make her a call as soon as you get free from your important meeting and assignments.

Checking out other girls: Being a male you can’t resist the temptation of checking out other girls even if you are hanging out with your wife in a shopping mall or on your dinner date. If you too have wandering eyes and you think that your woman is not aware of your habit, in that case you are wrong. She is well aware of your habit and she knows what are you upto. No woman likes her husband checking out other women in front of her and even in her absence too. It is not a sophisticate behavior and no women expect this from her husband.

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5 Things Matter Most to Your Wife to Break the Ice of Routine Life

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The relationship of a husband and wife is one of the best relationships. Once you enter in this special relationship you have a lot of expectations from your spouse. You must have heard a lot of times from people that marriage is very boring relationship. Your life becomes monotonous after marriage. There is no excitement in life after marriage. But, this is not true, after marriage your life is more beautiful. You have someone to be with you all the time. You have someone who is there to be as your buddy and companion in all occasions and reasons. But, if you are among those couples who feel that excitement has taken a back seat in life after marriage, for all such couples we are here sharing five things that matter most to your wife to break the ice of routine life.

Going for a surprise date: Going on a date is not meant for unmarried couples only, but after marriage it becomes more important to go on a date to infuse love in your routine life. Plan a surprise date with your wife to her favorite place. This will make her happy you can even plan your date to a place where you used to visit before marriage with her. Book your dinner table in advance to avoid any last minute change. To make the day more memorable don’t forget to carry flowers and her favorite chocolates.

Surprise visit to her workplace: Doing something unexpected will add more spice into your life. If your office is on her way or even if it is not on the way still you should plan a surprise visit to her workplace. It is something different from your routine life. Reach her office before her leaving time and pick her up from office. Even to make it more interesting, if you know her day’s schedule and you know that she can spare one hour or so for the lunch, so plan a surprise lunch with her. This will make her happy and help in breaking the routine life. Even you can send her some flowers to her workplace before you reach there.

Helping her out in her early morning routine stuff: If she wakes up early in the morning and you generally wake up after her, then for a change one day wake up early before her. It will be a big surprise for her. To see that special smile on her face help her out in her early morning routine stuff to ease her morning stress. It will make her very happy to see you helping her out in her routine work and making things easy for her. The couple who value each-others efforts and try to make things easy for each-other are the happy couples. Enter into the league of happy couples and surprise her with showing the helping hand.

Decorating your bedroom: This might sounds cheesy or unusual to you, but it will be surely loved by your wife. Think for different ways to decorate your bedroom to surprise her. If you know which kind of decoration will please her, then you should follow the same. But, if you are clueless about the decoration part, then you can go for normal flower decoration or you can take the help of internet to get the different decoration ideas. To add some jazz, you can use tea light candles or small lights.

Pampering her like princess: Pamper your lady love to make her feel special. All of us liked to get pampered and loved and your lady love will also like this. Pamper her with different tricks and ways. Give her a head massage or body massage to relax her senses and to de-stress her. You can also book a couple spa session to spend some quality time and to relax your senses. You can also do something else you think will be loved by her. Buy some body shower gels, massage oil or fragrances for her to pamper her.

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